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Rambling & whiny-but how do you cope when the sadness gets to you?
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<blockquote data-quote="Calamity Jane" data-source="post: 506806" data-attributes="member: 13882"><p>Signorina,</p><p>I'm a months-long reader of these posts, and first-time responder. You really captured the essence of what we go through as parents. I wonder if it all comes down to love, doesn't it? We love them, they don't seem to remember how to love us. It's beyond hurtful. How do we resolve the lies, the defiance, the disrespect, the rebelliousness - if they really loved us? If they're delusional and we're rational, where could we compromise? Why do they put a thief in their mouths to steal their brains?</p><p>In my Catholic belief, I always found it unfathomable that people denied miracles happened in front of their eyes, and couldn't bring themselves to believe that Jesus poured his life out for our redemption. If that can happen to God, who are we to think these things that are happening to us just couldn't be possible? Withholding of love is the beginning of all suffering. Pride also has to be replaced with humility, and then maybe they'll see things differently. I seem to simultaneously vascillate between compassion for him and fury at him - then I feel guilty for feeling that way!</p><p>Make it a priority to keep your home a sanctuary of peace for the rest of your family. I can just relay what works for me - I pray for my son to accept God's Grace, then I pray for him to embrace humility and accept true wisdom. Ultimately, we can only try to lead faithful, exemplary lives, and put our prayers at His feet, and leave the control up to Him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Calamity Jane, post: 506806, member: 13882"] Signorina, I'm a months-long reader of these posts, and first-time responder. You really captured the essence of what we go through as parents. I wonder if it all comes down to love, doesn't it? We love them, they don't seem to remember how to love us. It's beyond hurtful. How do we resolve the lies, the defiance, the disrespect, the rebelliousness - if they really loved us? If they're delusional and we're rational, where could we compromise? Why do they put a thief in their mouths to steal their brains? In my Catholic belief, I always found it unfathomable that people denied miracles happened in front of their eyes, and couldn't bring themselves to believe that Jesus poured his life out for our redemption. If that can happen to God, who are we to think these things that are happening to us just couldn't be possible? Withholding of love is the beginning of all suffering. Pride also has to be replaced with humility, and then maybe they'll see things differently. I seem to simultaneously vascillate between compassion for him and fury at him - then I feel guilty for feeling that way! Make it a priority to keep your home a sanctuary of peace for the rest of your family. I can just relay what works for me - I pray for my son to accept God's Grace, then I pray for him to embrace humility and accept true wisdom. Ultimately, we can only try to lead faithful, exemplary lives, and put our prayers at His feet, and leave the control up to Him. [/QUOTE]
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