Random positive thought

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by Jabberwockey, Feb 4, 2015.

  1. Jabberwockey

    Jabberwockey Well-Known Member

    This really doesn't relate to anything. Just kind of hit me while reading about what our, well I don't like the new reference so will just say, children who brought us to this forum have done to us over the years. The manipulation, emotional abuse, and stress they cause their families is horrible but try to step back and be more clinical for a minute.

    First, I have to respect their ability to live in the moment and consequences be damned. I don't have to agree with it, just respect it. How many of us have dreamed in some way, shape, or form of just doing what we want to do when we want to do it? Lil has told me about her dream (that pretty much ended with the birth of our son) about getting her paycheck, packing up a pickup truck, and leaving all the bills and responsibilities behind. Doesn't really appeal to me but my version of that would be to take the paycheck and go to Vegas or just go buy all those high end electronics I cant afford payments on!

    Second, the sheer amount of time and energy they put into their fabrications used to try to manipulate us. Think about ALL they could accomplish if they were to redirect this energy and intelligence (lets be honest, MOST of the children talked about here are highly intelligent if not overly street smart!) into something more productive and preferably legal!

    Finally, and this ties in with the second, is the sheer stubbornness that they possess when denying or redirecting/deflecting the fact of their inappropriate life style. I can be stubborn at times but when I'm told by enough people and shown cold hard facts that I probably wont succeed I stop what I'm doing and move on to something else. Well, most of the time! While soldiering on well after the safety limit has been passed may not be the healthiest way to live, its also the way to make break throughs!

    Just felt like sharing this. Have a good day everyone!
  2. Origami

    Origami Active Member

    You're so right! And I hadn't thought about some of these traits being admirable, but you could look at it that way. Our problem children are definitely not worried about public opinion or being shackled by conventional behavior.
  3. InsaneCdn

    InsaneCdn Well-Known Member

    It's like that old saying... You're stubborn, I'm just determined.

    What a trait is worth depends on the context and direction.
  4. Tanya M

    Tanya M Living with an attitude of gratitude Staff Member

    Interesting perspective.
    I'm all for living in the moment but only to the extent that my obligations have been met. I am a planner first but do love spontaneity. For me there has to be a balance. I love that on a weekend D H and I on a whim will take off in the car with no real plan - to just go out and explore but I know Mon-Fri, even if I'm sick I will be at my desk doing what I have to do to meet my obligations. My conscience, my sense of right and wrong, my moral compass, I choose to listen and follow these, I can't comprehend not doing this.

    If I had a dollar for every time I tried to get my son to understand the potential he has, if he would just focus all that energy into something positive.

    But it's all good because my son is an "Indigo Child" and he's going to save the world.............
  5. Jabberwockey

    Jabberwockey Well-Known Member

    Tanya, don't make me break out the Dr Evil impersonation again!
  6. Lil

    Lil Well-Known Member

    Yep....That was my favorite fantasy pre-baby: To not pay my bills for a month or so, take my paychecks, sell all my worldly goods, buy a cheap pickup with a camper so I'd have a place to sleep, just take every penny I could scrape together and drive until I was out of money, and then find a job waiting tables or something where no one knew me until I had enough money to move on. I could picture myself sleeping at a KOA campground or something, cooking over a fire and just being FREE!

    I could have been a hippie if I'd been born a decade sooner. Probably a good thing my parents had trouble conceiving. :p

    The difference between me and "our kids" is I'd have never actually done it. It was a fantasy...and fantasies seldom look as good if you try to make them realities.
  7. Tanya M

    Tanya M Living with an attitude of gratitude Staff Member

    Or a Pirate...... Arrrrggggggg