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Rant warning: Just tell him to go for a walk the therapist says
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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 308039" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>Have you spoken with anyone at your local police department to ask them how they handle calls like the one you would be making with Badger if/when he appears to have crossed the proverbial line? That may give you some insight as to how to proceed and what to expect.</p><p> </p><p>I guess I agree that if you are going to make the call, then the logical next step is a psychiatric evaluation in the ER. You might also call the ER where he would be sent and find out what would happen "if". </p><p> </p><p>Perhaps this therapist, after talking to Badger today, felt that there was more noise than substance behind his threats. You know your kid best, though. </p><p> </p><p>For instance, Ggf1 has occasionally said things like "I should just kill myself," usually during the heat of the moment when he is feeling sorry for himself and angry with a particular situation in which he and I were arguing heatedly. I knew he wasn't serious. All the other signs were not there. Or he's threatened to take a bat to my computer or the car or... fill in the blank. But again, I did not really belive he'd do it. That's not to say he hasn't been destructive when he's been angry -- and he has certainly threatened to destroy things. But when push comes to shove, his damages have been very minor and have been done secretively. Things like cutting a screen, or scratching a door or table. </p><p> </p><p>Maybe the therapist thinks Badger is just testing you and would not follow through on his most violent threats. </p><p> </p><p>Does Badger know or understand what you are willing to do if he continues the violence or threats? Does he realize what happens when the police are called, from A to Z? He's a smart kid, and perhaps if you discuss the consequences that come to kids who are violent with their families (when he's calm) he may be able to think on that long enough for it to have an impact on him, even if it's only slight, in an elevated emotional state. </p><p> </p><p>I'm not saying it's a parenting issue at all. I'm saying that the therapist's impression may be very different -- he doesn't live with you, and he doesn't know Badger as well as you do.</p><p> </p><p>You have to do what you feel is best to keep your family safe. And you shouldn't be held hostage by someone's out of control emotions. If that means a call to the cops and a trip to the ER for a 72 hour hold, so be it. What does his psychiatrist say about all this?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 308039, member: 3444"] Have you spoken with anyone at your local police department to ask them how they handle calls like the one you would be making with Badger if/when he appears to have crossed the proverbial line? That may give you some insight as to how to proceed and what to expect. I guess I agree that if you are going to make the call, then the logical next step is a psychiatric evaluation in the ER. You might also call the ER where he would be sent and find out what would happen "if". Perhaps this therapist, after talking to Badger today, felt that there was more noise than substance behind his threats. You know your kid best, though. For instance, Ggf1 has occasionally said things like "I should just kill myself," usually during the heat of the moment when he is feeling sorry for himself and angry with a particular situation in which he and I were arguing heatedly. I knew he wasn't serious. All the other signs were not there. Or he's threatened to take a bat to my computer or the car or... fill in the blank. But again, I did not really belive he'd do it. That's not to say he hasn't been destructive when he's been angry -- and he has certainly threatened to destroy things. But when push comes to shove, his damages have been very minor and have been done secretively. Things like cutting a screen, or scratching a door or table. Maybe the therapist thinks Badger is just testing you and would not follow through on his most violent threats. Does Badger know or understand what you are willing to do if he continues the violence or threats? Does he realize what happens when the police are called, from A to Z? He's a smart kid, and perhaps if you discuss the consequences that come to kids who are violent with their families (when he's calm) he may be able to think on that long enough for it to have an impact on him, even if it's only slight, in an elevated emotional state. I'm not saying it's a parenting issue at all. I'm saying that the therapist's impression may be very different -- he doesn't live with you, and he doesn't know Badger as well as you do. You have to do what you feel is best to keep your family safe. And you shouldn't be held hostage by someone's out of control emotions. If that means a call to the cops and a trip to the ER for a 72 hour hold, so be it. What does his psychiatrist say about all this? [/QUOTE]
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