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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 39339"><p>Kids at your sons age are really coming into their own. Micromanaging everything they see and/or hear is going to create conflict such as you had. This really does sound like teenage rebellion.</p><p></p><p>It's a hard line to walk when your kids are this age - wanting to instill your values/morals and allowing your child to think for himself and come to his own conclusions/make his own decisions. In just a couple of years he will be on his own and will have to think for himself. This is their time to practice, while we are still there to catch them when they trip up. We can't protect them forever and trying to protect them too much can leave them unprepared for life on their own.</p><p></p><p>You have spent his entire life up to this point instilling your values. Maybe you could let him spread his wings, knowing you have taught him the best you could, and allowing him to mess up <strong>and</strong> do well on his own. Allow him to build that confidence in himself and rebuild the trust between your family. His choices may not always be yours or your husbands, but that is as it should be....he's an individual as unique as the rest of us. </p><p></p><p>Take heart in the fact that he didn't go into the Disturbia movie anyway...a lot of kids would have just gone behind their parents back, especially when trying to save face with friends - difficult child or not.</p><p></p><p>Having said that, it is no excuse for his cursing you and treating you so badly. Even if he didn't get to see the movie he wanted, you did give him the money to go and you did pick him up and he could have chosen not to go at all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 39339"] Kids at your sons age are really coming into their own. Micromanaging everything they see and/or hear is going to create conflict such as you had. This really does sound like teenage rebellion. It's a hard line to walk when your kids are this age - wanting to instill your values/morals and allowing your child to think for himself and come to his own conclusions/make his own decisions. In just a couple of years he will be on his own and will have to think for himself. This is their time to practice, while we are still there to catch them when they trip up. We can't protect them forever and trying to protect them too much can leave them unprepared for life on their own. You have spent his entire life up to this point instilling your values. Maybe you could let him spread his wings, knowing you have taught him the best you could, and allowing him to mess up [b]and[/b] do well on his own. Allow him to build that confidence in himself and rebuild the trust between your family. His choices may not always be yours or your husbands, but that is as it should be....he's an individual as unique as the rest of us. Take heart in the fact that he didn't go into the Disturbia movie anyway...a lot of kids would have just gone behind their parents back, especially when trying to save face with friends - difficult child or not. Having said that, it is no excuse for his cursing you and treating you so badly. Even if he didn't get to see the movie he wanted, you did give him the money to go and you did pick him up and he could have chosen not to go at all. [/QUOTE]
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