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Re: I need strength to stop enabling and kick my drug addicted son out
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 527993"><p>Ziggy....I hope the moderateors may put this in a new thread that is all your own. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>I am in a similar situation as you.... although my son is on the streets right now in another state and there is no way we will let him come home. The main reason is I have a 16 (almost 17) easy child daughter and I will not subject her to his crazy drug addicted behavior again. My son has recently gotten into opiates... not sure if he is yet using heroin but I know without serious help that is his next stop.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes I wonder if we had not kicked him out would things have been better... then I think back to our worries when he was sniffing gasoline at the age of 14... and I know that even then I knew he would try anything that was offered to him and it was only a matter of time... and so my focus then was on getting him help and really it continues to be that.</p><p></p><p>I realize however that he won't get help until he is down and out enough to want it. Having him live at home would just mean we would all join him in the agony of his drug addiction. I continue to try and find options to offer him, although what he chooses to do is up to him. I do think in some cases, my son included, that more is needed than straight detox and AA. He needs some mental health help as well... and I am trying to find some of those types of resources for him at this point... again though only offering options not making decisions for him.</p><p></p><p>So at some point for your own mental health you may have to tell your son that he cannot live with you while he is using....and tell him you will help him find treatment when he is ready.</p><p></p><p>I think it takes many addicts many times at rehab and many relapses to finally turn things around. And yeah having them live on the streets is the scariest thing of all to me....at least when my son was in jail for a couple of weeks I knew he was basically safe.... on the streets you don't know that. </p><p></p><p>If you havent already try to find some family group for yourself. I have found a wonderful alanon group for parents and it has been a life saver for my own sanity... just being with others who understand exactly what I am going through and also as examples fo people who have found a way to go on.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 527993"] Ziggy....I hope the moderateors may put this in a new thread that is all your own. :) I am in a similar situation as you.... although my son is on the streets right now in another state and there is no way we will let him come home. The main reason is I have a 16 (almost 17) easy child daughter and I will not subject her to his crazy drug addicted behavior again. My son has recently gotten into opiates... not sure if he is yet using heroin but I know without serious help that is his next stop. Sometimes I wonder if we had not kicked him out would things have been better... then I think back to our worries when he was sniffing gasoline at the age of 14... and I know that even then I knew he would try anything that was offered to him and it was only a matter of time... and so my focus then was on getting him help and really it continues to be that. I realize however that he won't get help until he is down and out enough to want it. Having him live at home would just mean we would all join him in the agony of his drug addiction. I continue to try and find options to offer him, although what he chooses to do is up to him. I do think in some cases, my son included, that more is needed than straight detox and AA. He needs some mental health help as well... and I am trying to find some of those types of resources for him at this point... again though only offering options not making decisions for him. So at some point for your own mental health you may have to tell your son that he cannot live with you while he is using....and tell him you will help him find treatment when he is ready. I think it takes many addicts many times at rehab and many relapses to finally turn things around. And yeah having them live on the streets is the scariest thing of all to me....at least when my son was in jail for a couple of weeks I knew he was basically safe.... on the streets you don't know that. If you havent already try to find some family group for yourself. I have found a wonderful alanon group for parents and it has been a life saver for my own sanity... just being with others who understand exactly what I am going through and also as examples fo people who have found a way to go on. TL [/QUOTE]
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