I first posted about our ODD difficult child #2 a while back
We took your advice and spoke with his physician. The physician agreed that that counselor should not have made the diagnosis, and we are getting him into a neuro-psychiatric.
Issue #1 - difficult child 2's appointment won't even be made for up to 4 to 6 months due to heavy backlog.
Issue #2 - difficult child 2's behavior has gotten at least 1,000,000X worse now...
Problem #1 - difficult child 2 is not taking his Clonodine - he is purposefully not taking it and lying stating that he did take it. Even when we do give it to him, sometimes he makes a fast switcherooo. I know that it is widely agreed by this really great community, by ourselves, and by the family physician that yes, chances are ODD is a secondary disorder to the primary disorder, but we are not to change his medicine routine until he sees the neuro-psychiatric.
Problem #2 - difficult child 2 is lying almost multiple times daily about even the most mundane and smallest things.
Problem #3 - difficult child 2 is consistently and daily disrespecting and disobeying his mother.
Problem #4 - Any sort of punishment or attempts to handle the situations involving difficult child 2 do NOT work - the only punishment that seems to calm him down temporarily is a spanking when he completely flys off the handle - ignoring it, grounding him, taking away computer / console games, nothing works because when the grounding is lifted it is right back to the way it was.
Problem #5 - difficult child 2 is constantly belligerent now, especially about going to church services with the family.
Problem #6 - difficult child 2 is now even making rude and uncalled for comments to and in front of other adults! He is 10 years old for pete's sake and he is insulting even his soon-to-be new grandparents!
Problem #7 - difficult child 2 is finding every way possible to annoy EVERYONE - for example, intentionally turning up the television to a high volume when others are in the room, intentionally not rinsing his dishes and putting them in the sink, intentionally not letting us know where he is going when he is playing with his friends, etc..
Problem #8 - Every time we attempt to circumnavigate his 'annoyances', he always finds another way to get at everyone.
THE WEIRD THING - At school he is honor roll, and is in no way a disciplinary problem!!! We do not have a dysfunctional home in any way except with difficult child 2 and the turmoil he is causing!
We are really at our wits end with difficult child 2 - we no longer have any sort of control over the situation and no control of difficult child 2 - and we cannot wait 4-6 months - we need help, desperately.
We love you all here for your wisdom and your responses earlier on, and we really could use some advice this time...
Sincerely,
Paul
We took your advice and spoke with his physician. The physician agreed that that counselor should not have made the diagnosis, and we are getting him into a neuro-psychiatric.
Issue #1 - difficult child 2's appointment won't even be made for up to 4 to 6 months due to heavy backlog.
Issue #2 - difficult child 2's behavior has gotten at least 1,000,000X worse now...
Problem #1 - difficult child 2 is not taking his Clonodine - he is purposefully not taking it and lying stating that he did take it. Even when we do give it to him, sometimes he makes a fast switcherooo. I know that it is widely agreed by this really great community, by ourselves, and by the family physician that yes, chances are ODD is a secondary disorder to the primary disorder, but we are not to change his medicine routine until he sees the neuro-psychiatric.
Problem #2 - difficult child 2 is lying almost multiple times daily about even the most mundane and smallest things.
Problem #3 - difficult child 2 is consistently and daily disrespecting and disobeying his mother.
Problem #4 - Any sort of punishment or attempts to handle the situations involving difficult child 2 do NOT work - the only punishment that seems to calm him down temporarily is a spanking when he completely flys off the handle - ignoring it, grounding him, taking away computer / console games, nothing works because when the grounding is lifted it is right back to the way it was.
Problem #5 - difficult child 2 is constantly belligerent now, especially about going to church services with the family.
Problem #6 - difficult child 2 is now even making rude and uncalled for comments to and in front of other adults! He is 10 years old for pete's sake and he is insulting even his soon-to-be new grandparents!
Problem #7 - difficult child 2 is finding every way possible to annoy EVERYONE - for example, intentionally turning up the television to a high volume when others are in the room, intentionally not rinsing his dishes and putting them in the sink, intentionally not letting us know where he is going when he is playing with his friends, etc..
Problem #8 - Every time we attempt to circumnavigate his 'annoyances', he always finds another way to get at everyone.
THE WEIRD THING - At school he is honor roll, and is in no way a disciplinary problem!!! We do not have a dysfunctional home in any way except with difficult child 2 and the turmoil he is causing!
We are really at our wits end with difficult child 2 - we no longer have any sort of control over the situation and no control of difficult child 2 - and we cannot wait 4-6 months - we need help, desperately.
We love you all here for your wisdom and your responses earlier on, and we really could use some advice this time...
Sincerely,
Paul