First I should tell you about myself. I am 32 single mom. I have 3 children. My middle child was always unusual. She is extremely bright, she taught herself how to read and basic math by the time she was 4. She scores of the charts. Since she was a baby she is very scheduled, setting a schedule she maintained for months the first day home from the hospital. She was always easily upset and very aggressive. Her sister was always being bit, and my daughters tantrums a bit more intense then normal, but I always thought she was grow out of them. She is now 9, yesterday was one of the worse episodes since she was born. She screamed, kicked threw whatever she could get her hands on, and repeated to me that she couldn't calm down. Breathing and counting, playing the piano all didn't work for about 4 hours. She finally calmed down but was easily escalated again, it was like walking on egg shells. I had her in counseling, and have made an appointment to get her back into the clinic. But in the meantime what do I do? I feel lost, like a failure as a parent. Some background her father has ADHD, and I have been diagnosed as depressed but it was the situation. My father was an extreme alcoholic and drug user and I know he had some undiagnosed mental health issues causing the substance abuse. I hope you guys can give me some insight!