TerryJ2
Well-Known Member
I thought of you all this a.m., and especially Kjs ... difficult child has been SO good lately, but this a.m., husband didn't give him his pill early like he usually does. He woke difficult child and we all pretty much got up and got dressed at the same time, except that difficult child didn't want to get up, and I made the mistake of saying, "Hi honey. Time to get up," (in happy voice) which was apparently the wrong thing to do. "NO!" he snarled. In fact, he usually snarls with-o any recognizable language to go with-it. Both dogs nosed under the pillow and he got angrier (apparently he thought I did it).
Breakfast was no better.
He had the most evil look on his face. Worse than a Halloween decoration!
He insisted I pick him up at a certain time at school, when in fact, I'm supposed to have him at baseball practice at the same time his sister is supposed to be picked up and there's no way I can do both at the same time. I told him I had to figure it all out and he didn't like my non-answer.
Finally, as he snarled across the table from me, I retorted,
"That's it! You do NOT look at me like that or talk to me like that. You are on Level 1."
"I don't CARE!"
(Of course. His stock reply.)
I knew enough to drop it. And I credit not only my/our training, but Effexor, because it was just enough to show him I was upset, but not have a huge explosion. (I absolutely do not want to sound like a pharmaceutical commercial... I am the last person in the world to tout this stuff, but it works on me.)
Philosophically, I believe that it IS okay to show our kids that we are angry, because in the real world, you cannot expect to be mean to people and not cause a reaction. It's basic cause and effect. However, as parents, we are in control, and we have to temper our tempers, so to speak, to remain in control and not lose it.
His Adderal probably kicked in on the way to school. It's really upsetting and disappointing to see that Mr. Hyde is still there. A fantasy part of me wants him to outgrow this so he won't need the medications ... and neither will I ... sigh ...
Breakfast was no better.
He had the most evil look on his face. Worse than a Halloween decoration!
He insisted I pick him up at a certain time at school, when in fact, I'm supposed to have him at baseball practice at the same time his sister is supposed to be picked up and there's no way I can do both at the same time. I told him I had to figure it all out and he didn't like my non-answer.
Finally, as he snarled across the table from me, I retorted,
"That's it! You do NOT look at me like that or talk to me like that. You are on Level 1."
"I don't CARE!"
(Of course. His stock reply.)
I knew enough to drop it. And I credit not only my/our training, but Effexor, because it was just enough to show him I was upset, but not have a huge explosion. (I absolutely do not want to sound like a pharmaceutical commercial... I am the last person in the world to tout this stuff, but it works on me.)
Philosophically, I believe that it IS okay to show our kids that we are angry, because in the real world, you cannot expect to be mean to people and not cause a reaction. It's basic cause and effect. However, as parents, we are in control, and we have to temper our tempers, so to speak, to remain in control and not lose it.
His Adderal probably kicked in on the way to school. It's really upsetting and disappointing to see that Mr. Hyde is still there. A fantasy part of me wants him to outgrow this so he won't need the medications ... and neither will I ... sigh ...