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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 57372" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>First of all Welcome! :flower:</p><p>I believe you will find a lot of comfort and wisdom from everyone here. </p><p></p><p>I think the best thing you can do now is get a neuropsychologist evaluation done. This will enable the psychiatrist to conclude a more accurate diagnosis about your son from diagnostic testing, rather than just taking random guesses as to what the problem is.</p><p></p><p>One of the biggest hurdles that most of us face with our difficult children is blame. Everyone needs to blame someone, and the fact that our child is acting out causes us, as parents, to be likely targets. 99% of the time it is not bad parenting, or bad disciplining, but rather the problem is the wiring within our child. I would suggest you read the book Explosive Child by Ross Greene. This book offers amazing insights into how to manage our difficult child kids, and understand them on a deeper level.</p><p></p><p>I can hear the fear in your email. Fear about the future, medications, therapy, schools, labels, etc. And those are fears that are completely valid, and ones that we all have. However, you might try to <em>not</em> think of the future as one big melding pot of potential worries, but rather a puzzle that you need to find the pieces to - just one at a time. </p><p></p><p>I can see how you might be overwhelmed by hearing us vent on this board about all of our trials and tribulations, and on the endless battles with medications, psychiatric hospital, therapy, etc. But we are all trying to help our little guys - just like you - and I do not think that we ever feel as if our kids have become personified as simply an illness. They are our sweet little babies. If your child ends up needing one of the above mentioned therapies, you will feel the same way about your child as you do now. I promise. </p><p></p><p>As far as feeling angry, and resentful - we have all been there done that! It is <em>completely</em> normal! We all have dreams and hopes of what we want for our kids - and when they are not only unhappy, but making us unhappy, it is normal to be frustrated.</p><p></p><p>Again, welcome to the board. More will be along soon to share their wisdom.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 57372, member: 3301"] First of all Welcome! [img]:flower:[/img] I believe you will find a lot of comfort and wisdom from everyone here. I think the best thing you can do now is get a neuropsychologist evaluation done. This will enable the psychiatrist to conclude a more accurate diagnosis about your son from diagnostic testing, rather than just taking random guesses as to what the problem is. One of the biggest hurdles that most of us face with our difficult children is blame. Everyone needs to blame someone, and the fact that our child is acting out causes us, as parents, to be likely targets. 99% of the time it is not bad parenting, or bad disciplining, but rather the problem is the wiring within our child. I would suggest you read the book Explosive Child by Ross Greene. This book offers amazing insights into how to manage our difficult child kids, and understand them on a deeper level. I can hear the fear in your email. Fear about the future, medications, therapy, schools, labels, etc. And those are fears that are completely valid, and ones that we all have. However, you might try to [i]not[/i] think of the future as one big melding pot of potential worries, but rather a puzzle that you need to find the pieces to - just one at a time. I can see how you might be overwhelmed by hearing us vent on this board about all of our trials and tribulations, and on the endless battles with medications, psychiatric hospital, therapy, etc. But we are all trying to help our little guys - just like you - and I do not think that we ever feel as if our kids have become personified as simply an illness. They are our sweet little babies. If your child ends up needing one of the above mentioned therapies, you will feel the same way about your child as you do now. I promise. As far as feeling angry, and resentful - we have all been there done that! It is [i]completely[/i] normal! We all have dreams and hopes of what we want for our kids - and when they are not only unhappy, but making us unhappy, it is normal to be frustrated. Again, welcome to the board. More will be along soon to share their wisdom. [/QUOTE]
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