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<blockquote data-quote="Coookie" data-source="post: 121201" data-attributes="member: 1587"><p>Oh Sue, <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p> </p><p>I can only give my view but if thank you won't do these things at Residential Treatment Center (RTC), he probably won't do them at home. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> You know that though. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> I think I would tell the staff to stop doing for him. If he chooses to not do it then... well ... he chooses to not do it.</p><p> </p><p>It makes me think of that old saying "Necessity is the mother of invention". </p><p> </p><p>With my difficult child... it has surprised husband and I how much he will do for himself... since he was in an environment where he had too... and still is now.</p><p> </p><p>I would tell thank you... "You said you know how to do these things, but why should you if others are doing them for you? Well, others won't be anymore." I sure hope the staff gets on board with you on this.</p><p> </p><p>Words come easy to our difficult children, it is the actions and behaviors that are the most telling in my book. If thank you refuses to do these things in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC), what assurance do you have that he will do them at home? <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p> </p><p>That has probably been one of the hardest things for my difficult child to connect.... words and actions. I so wanted to believe the words... but the actions kept hitting me in the face. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/faint.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":faint:" title="faint :faint:" data-shortname=":faint:" /></p><p> </p><p>Just some thoughts...</p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Coookie, post: 121201, member: 1587"] Oh Sue, :( I can only give my view but if thank you won't do these things at Residential Treatment Center (RTC), he probably won't do them at home. :( You know that though. :( I think I would tell the staff to stop doing for him. If he chooses to not do it then... well ... he chooses to not do it. It makes me think of that old saying "Necessity is the mother of invention". With my difficult child... it has surprised husband and I how much he will do for himself... since he was in an environment where he had too... and still is now. I would tell thank you... "You said you know how to do these things, but why should you if others are doing them for you? Well, others won't be anymore." I sure hope the staff gets on board with you on this. Words come easy to our difficult children, it is the actions and behaviors that are the most telling in my book. If thank you refuses to do these things in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC), what assurance do you have that he will do them at home? :( That has probably been one of the hardest things for my difficult child to connect.... words and actions. I so wanted to believe the words... but the actions kept hitting me in the face. :knockedout: Just some thoughts... Hugs [/QUOTE]
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