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<blockquote data-quote="PatriotsGirl" data-source="post: 576307" data-attributes="member: 15796"><p>All of the advice is much, much appreciated. Believe me. I agree with you all wholeheartedly. I do not think anyone overstepped. Not here - this is why we are here - honest to goodness truth and advice. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> As much as I had a little glimpse of excitement over a baby, I do know it is a disaster waiting to happen. They cannot take care of themselves and at least when I got pregnant with difficult child, I was already taking care of myself. Sure, I had a cocaine problem at the time, but I was working and had my own apartment. Once I found out I was pregnant and the baby daddy wanted me to get an abortion, I moved in with my mother and was a single parent until I met husband. It was not easy but I pulled up my boot straps and did what needed to be done. My son was planned and it was still hard. These two are in no way ready for a baby. Sure, he is 34, but emotionally - probably more in his early twenties. And her - ha. Never even held a real job for a week...</p><p></p><p>I have told them over and over what my advice was - what I think they needed to do. They didn't want to hear it. I sent an email to her with a link to talk to someone. She hasn't responded nor has she called the place. I honestly don't think there is anything else I can do and time is sure running out. She is two months this week. </p><p></p><p>As much as I wish I could, I highly doubt I can show up at their motel room and get difficult child to go to a parenting class or anywhere for that matter. I tried talking her into going back to the program. She argued that she was not using. I tried telling her it was not just for substance abuse, but close to places to work, the bus line, a kitchen to cook healthy foods to eat, etc. Nope. Wants nothing to do with anything but being with baby daddy. </p><p></p><p>I think at this point, I may need to contact the department of family services and see what I can do there... <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PatriotsGirl, post: 576307, member: 15796"] All of the advice is much, much appreciated. Believe me. I agree with you all wholeheartedly. I do not think anyone overstepped. Not here - this is why we are here - honest to goodness truth and advice. :) As much as I had a little glimpse of excitement over a baby, I do know it is a disaster waiting to happen. They cannot take care of themselves and at least when I got pregnant with difficult child, I was already taking care of myself. Sure, I had a cocaine problem at the time, but I was working and had my own apartment. Once I found out I was pregnant and the baby daddy wanted me to get an abortion, I moved in with my mother and was a single parent until I met husband. It was not easy but I pulled up my boot straps and did what needed to be done. My son was planned and it was still hard. These two are in no way ready for a baby. Sure, he is 34, but emotionally - probably more in his early twenties. And her - ha. Never even held a real job for a week... I have told them over and over what my advice was - what I think they needed to do. They didn't want to hear it. I sent an email to her with a link to talk to someone. She hasn't responded nor has she called the place. I honestly don't think there is anything else I can do and time is sure running out. She is two months this week. As much as I wish I could, I highly doubt I can show up at their motel room and get difficult child to go to a parenting class or anywhere for that matter. I tried talking her into going back to the program. She argued that she was not using. I tried telling her it was not just for substance abuse, but close to places to work, the bus line, a kitchen to cook healthy foods to eat, etc. Nope. Wants nothing to do with anything but being with baby daddy. I think at this point, I may need to contact the department of family services and see what I can do there... :( [/QUOTE]
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