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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 751368" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>We think about this too. We did not stop our enabling until Kay was 30 and it was very slow. This long stint of enabling is because we know she isn't logical. But she IS getting older and is big and strong and young and scary sometimes, especially if we are near her and will not give her money.</p><p></p><p>We can't risk ourselves for her, mentally ill or not. Others love us, and all of you too, and we must stay safe for them. Also, I think of "so young" as college age. Any older and most kids are moving on in life. Over 30....they may never get the help they need if we don't detach so that they can see they need help. I feel that not detaching gives them no hope at all. Even with detaching, we hold little hope out for Kay.</p><p></p><p>Anxious to see other answers and viewpoints.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 751368, member: 23706"] We think about this too. We did not stop our enabling until Kay was 30 and it was very slow. This long stint of enabling is because we know she isn't logical. But she IS getting older and is big and strong and young and scary sometimes, especially if we are near her and will not give her money. We can't risk ourselves for her, mentally ill or not. Others love us, and all of you too, and we must stay safe for them. Also, I think of "so young" as college age. Any older and most kids are moving on in life. Over 30....they may never get the help they need if we don't detach so that they can see they need help. I feel that not detaching gives them no hope at all. Even with detaching, we hold little hope out for Kay. Anxious to see other answers and viewpoints. [/QUOTE]
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