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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 133537" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Attachment disorder is not only very possible with children adopted at birth, it is not unusual. It does not just happen to children adopted from foster care or who suffered abuse or neglect. That was the thinking in the past and many people still believe that but most professional, clinical therapists in the area, now agree with what we as adoptive families have known for a long time.</p><p></p><p>We adopted our difficult child at birth. We were at a class last week given by a professional clinical counselor who evaluates kids for several juvenile courts in our area. He wrote a book on how to change your child's behavior. There were five people at this class even though many more were expected. Of the five, two of us had adopted children. We are both having serious problems with our difficult child's who are currently in the judicial system. We both adopted our children at birth. Interesting that of the people at this class, 40&#37; of us adopted our children at birth. This was not a class for adoptive families. It was a class for families invited by our police department, whose children were in legal trouble from our community. What were the chances that two of the five of us adopted our children? This counselor told us that in his practice at any given time there are from 35-50% adopted kids, and many have been adopted at birth. Since only 2% of the families have adopted children, this number is significant. And he says it is the same for most of his fellow therapists. The juvenile detention facilities are made up of a very high percentage of adopted kids.</p><p></p><p>The most significant factor in a child's behavior is genetics. The bonding process starts before birth and when that is interrupted, however soon, the infant feels the sense of loss.</p><p></p><p>I don't know if your difficult child has Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). That is a serious diagnosis and not to be given lightly. But I would not be surprised either to learn that she has attachment problems.</p><p></p><p>I would like to know a little more about what kind of behaviors she is exhibiting, but my suggestion is to find a therapist who is very experienced in adoption issues. Oh and one other thing, this counselor also told us that ADHD is almost always diagnosed in these kids when it is really ODD due to adoption issues and genetics.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 133537, member: 59"] Attachment disorder is not only very possible with children adopted at birth, it is not unusual. It does not just happen to children adopted from foster care or who suffered abuse or neglect. That was the thinking in the past and many people still believe that but most professional, clinical therapists in the area, now agree with what we as adoptive families have known for a long time. We adopted our difficult child at birth. We were at a class last week given by a professional clinical counselor who evaluates kids for several juvenile courts in our area. He wrote a book on how to change your child's behavior. There were five people at this class even though many more were expected. Of the five, two of us had adopted children. We are both having serious problems with our difficult child's who are currently in the judicial system. We both adopted our children at birth. Interesting that of the people at this class, 40% of us adopted our children at birth. This was not a class for adoptive families. It was a class for families invited by our police department, whose children were in legal trouble from our community. What were the chances that two of the five of us adopted our children? This counselor told us that in his practice at any given time there are from 35-50% adopted kids, and many have been adopted at birth. Since only 2% of the families have adopted children, this number is significant. And he says it is the same for most of his fellow therapists. The juvenile detention facilities are made up of a very high percentage of adopted kids. The most significant factor in a child's behavior is genetics. The bonding process starts before birth and when that is interrupted, however soon, the infant feels the sense of loss. I don't know if your difficult child has Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). That is a serious diagnosis and not to be given lightly. But I would not be surprised either to learn that she has attachment problems. I would like to know a little more about what kind of behaviors she is exhibiting, but my suggestion is to find a therapist who is very experienced in adoption issues. Oh and one other thing, this counselor also told us that ADHD is almost always diagnosed in these kids when it is really ODD due to adoption issues and genetics. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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