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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 133693" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>There are no easy answers for our kids and, I think, it is even harder when we adopt because we just don't have the genetic background nor do we know what all was done to our baby in the womb. The best we can do is fight for our children tooth and nail, learn all we can, ask questions and don't take no for an answer.</p><p> </p><p>In some ways, I was lucky that mine didn't have the BiPolar (BP) to add to her mix. Her Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is on the "mild" side but still severe enough to require an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) in her mid teens. She does have ADD but, again, it is mild and something she can cope with without medications. </p><p> </p><p>One thing I learned was that she would never the child of my dreams -- college, boy friend, marriage, grandchildren. She is, however, the child of my heart. Almost every parent has to let go of the dreams we had for our children -- some of us more than others. Sometimes we're lucky enough to be able to change our dreams into something our children can attain. Sadly, for some the dreams become nightmares with no real way out. Work on finding the dreams for your daughter that are real. </p><p> </p><p>She will struggle more than many children, but not as much as some. She will go down paths that you will hate -- almost all kids do, some to more extremes than others. If you're lucky, one day she will turn around and thank you for all of your hard work, for being there for her, for being her mom. Until that day, hang on for the ride of your life.</p><p> </p><p>Do shed your tears and grieve for the loss of dreams, for the stuggles your little one will endure. Do remember that with all of those struggles, she will have triumphs. Not the triumphs of some, but triumphs that will be celebrated and cherished even more because they were harder to reach.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 133693, member: 3626"] There are no easy answers for our kids and, I think, it is even harder when we adopt because we just don't have the genetic background nor do we know what all was done to our baby in the womb. The best we can do is fight for our children tooth and nail, learn all we can, ask questions and don't take no for an answer. In some ways, I was lucky that mine didn't have the BiPolar (BP) to add to her mix. Her Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is on the "mild" side but still severe enough to require an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) in her mid teens. She does have ADD but, again, it is mild and something she can cope with without medications. One thing I learned was that she would never the child of my dreams -- college, boy friend, marriage, grandchildren. She is, however, the child of my heart. Almost every parent has to let go of the dreams we had for our children -- some of us more than others. Sometimes we're lucky enough to be able to change our dreams into something our children can attain. Sadly, for some the dreams become nightmares with no real way out. Work on finding the dreams for your daughter that are real. She will struggle more than many children, but not as much as some. She will go down paths that you will hate -- almost all kids do, some to more extremes than others. If you're lucky, one day she will turn around and thank you for all of your hard work, for being there for her, for being her mom. Until that day, hang on for the ride of your life. Do shed your tears and grieve for the loss of dreams, for the stuggles your little one will endure. Do remember that with all of those struggles, she will have triumphs. Not the triumphs of some, but triumphs that will be celebrated and cherished even more because they were harder to reach. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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