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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 416544" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so sorry about your stepdad. I am sure that what you wrote was beautify. I would feel honored if you shared it with me. Star's method may be helpful. Medication for depression may also be helpful. I smoke periodically, never around my family or husband. Oddly when I decide to stop, I just do. I have sometimes gone years with-o thinking of it and then all of a sudden -there it is. A few years ago I finally figured it out. For me it is a giant neon sign that I am depressed. So now I reach for the medications instead. Your mom may have some element of this. It is also NOT a good time for her to stop smoking unless she is just determined to do it. Loss of a spouse is such a huge blow that unless she brings it up or has a health issue in crisis, I would wait about 6-12 months to let her get through the grief an pain a bit. </p><p> </p><p>Proud of you for accepting the help from medications. It may seem like "defeat" but that is "stinkin' thinkin'" Driving a car isn't accepting defeat that you cannot walk, is it? The car is a TOOL. So are the medications. If you need them for life it is OK. But life is a terribly long time, so while it may seem like you will always need then, and you might, it isn't necessarily the way it really is.</p><p> </p><p>I am so happy that Manster got into the school he wanted. That can make a giant difference in his life. He really is a sweet kid - you done good, Mom!</p><p> </p><p>Sending a basket of hugs - reach in and grab one whenever you need to (or want to!) and know that you and yours are in my thought and prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 416544, member: 1233"] I am so sorry about your stepdad. I am sure that what you wrote was beautify. I would feel honored if you shared it with me. Star's method may be helpful. Medication for depression may also be helpful. I smoke periodically, never around my family or husband. Oddly when I decide to stop, I just do. I have sometimes gone years with-o thinking of it and then all of a sudden -there it is. A few years ago I finally figured it out. For me it is a giant neon sign that I am depressed. So now I reach for the medications instead. Your mom may have some element of this. It is also NOT a good time for her to stop smoking unless she is just determined to do it. Loss of a spouse is such a huge blow that unless she brings it up or has a health issue in crisis, I would wait about 6-12 months to let her get through the grief an pain a bit. Proud of you for accepting the help from medications. It may seem like "defeat" but that is "stinkin' thinkin'" Driving a car isn't accepting defeat that you cannot walk, is it? The car is a TOOL. So are the medications. If you need them for life it is OK. But life is a terribly long time, so while it may seem like you will always need then, and you might, it isn't necessarily the way it really is. I am so happy that Manster got into the school he wanted. That can make a giant difference in his life. He really is a sweet kid - you done good, Mom! Sending a basket of hugs - reach in and grab one whenever you need to (or want to!) and know that you and yours are in my thought and prayers. [/QUOTE]
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