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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 511163" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Correct, DDD, and I hope I conveyed it in a way where they can't turn that into me being uncooperative or unwilling to participate or comply with any services. They are the ones who push behavior contracts yet that would require us knowing what their requirements are, right?. And if they hold difficult child until May, that puts him transferring sd's- again- right at the end of a semester and probably the week of final exams and they are only giving him 2 core classes in the detention center. That's part of the reason this stinks- I had it arranged where difficult child probably would go to a mainstream sd and get in early enough in the semester to take a normal course load but schools in detention and Department of Juvenile Justice facilities won't let kids take normal course loads any more. They limit them to 2 core classes per semester. And I don't think ttelling difficult child he has to be in there 90 days or telliing us 30 then coming up with some excuse to change that later is going to help motivate him to stay on the right track.</p><p></p><p>Of course, I don't know how they are going to react to any of this either. Department of Juvenile Justice just doesn't have it together at all when it comes to this reentry initiative but they need to quit holding kids' releases up because of that.</p><p></p><p>Buddy, I think your and your difficult child's situation is pretty critical, too, and you are aware of the importance of making sure those in control know you aare keeping your eyes on the situation and will do whatever you need to to advocaate for your difficult child. That doesn't make their lives easy but the alternative is just not worth it.</p><p></p><p>I was pretty proud of the way difficult child handled that comment about his education and future job. I bragged on him and told him I thought it showed that he's getting it now- you don't have to break the law to keep your strength and fight for what you want to go ffor and that doesn't mean you let them break you down. I told him if he holds onto that attitude and is willing to work his rear off to get it and stay away from partying, 5 years from now he'll be toward the end of college and won't even remember this staff person's name. I don't know if he'll actually do that or not but I was really glad to hear those words from him yesterday.</p><p></p><p>PO was starting to make little comments that appeared to be pointing to trying to require difficult child to get back on medications and that we were being led to believe we need to hurry and get things started because difficult child could be out in 30 days but then he toldd me this family therapy was usually 4 mos long, then he went and told difficult child that if he wasn't finished with this "therapy" by the time he left detention, he would have to finish it after returning home. Well, no true in home family therapy would be scheduled to have the majority of it acccomplished while difficult child isn't even home but the bigger thing was PO telling me it lasted 4 mos then leading difficult child to bellieve most would be done while he's in detention, but never telling me or difficult child that he's in there for 90 days, period.</p><p></p><p>I think PO is the type of person who can't make decisions so he's letting his super and reentry lady make them and his super is on a control/power trip and reentry lady is trying to play MH prof, which she's not but even if she was, she hasn't givern difficult child a MH evaluation and is just another person in a long list who think reading a juvenile record from courts/csu and know all they need to to determine appropriate MH tx.</p><p></p><p>What is most frustrating to me is that instead of difficult child being able to concentrate and work on the issues that caused him these problems, we are yet again having to focus on things like trying to figure out whatt the hidden agenda and real "plan" is- you know, that plan that PO/reentry lady claimed provided a seamless transition, empowerment of the parent, etc.They make such issue over having to be in control and having to be the ones to determine the plan yet they don't know how, at least that's how it looks to me. The only service they do well is lip service. Even difficult child said something similar when he was telling me about PO's visit- he said PO was talking out of both sides of his mouth and it all sounded rehearsed- like someone else had told him what to say then he wouldn't really answer difficult child's questions. Yep, that's him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 511163, member: 3699"] Correct, DDD, and I hope I conveyed it in a way where they can't turn that into me being uncooperative or unwilling to participate or comply with any services. They are the ones who push behavior contracts yet that would require us knowing what their requirements are, right?. And if they hold difficult child until May, that puts him transferring sd's- again- right at the end of a semester and probably the week of final exams and they are only giving him 2 core classes in the detention center. That's part of the reason this stinks- I had it arranged where difficult child probably would go to a mainstream sd and get in early enough in the semester to take a normal course load but schools in detention and Department of Juvenile Justice facilities won't let kids take normal course loads any more. They limit them to 2 core classes per semester. And I don't think ttelling difficult child he has to be in there 90 days or telliing us 30 then coming up with some excuse to change that later is going to help motivate him to stay on the right track. Of course, I don't know how they are going to react to any of this either. Department of Juvenile Justice just doesn't have it together at all when it comes to this reentry initiative but they need to quit holding kids' releases up because of that. Buddy, I think your and your difficult child's situation is pretty critical, too, and you are aware of the importance of making sure those in control know you aare keeping your eyes on the situation and will do whatever you need to to advocaate for your difficult child. That doesn't make their lives easy but the alternative is just not worth it. I was pretty proud of the way difficult child handled that comment about his education and future job. I bragged on him and told him I thought it showed that he's getting it now- you don't have to break the law to keep your strength and fight for what you want to go ffor and that doesn't mean you let them break you down. I told him if he holds onto that attitude and is willing to work his rear off to get it and stay away from partying, 5 years from now he'll be toward the end of college and won't even remember this staff person's name. I don't know if he'll actually do that or not but I was really glad to hear those words from him yesterday. PO was starting to make little comments that appeared to be pointing to trying to require difficult child to get back on medications and that we were being led to believe we need to hurry and get things started because difficult child could be out in 30 days but then he toldd me this family therapy was usually 4 mos long, then he went and told difficult child that if he wasn't finished with this "therapy" by the time he left detention, he would have to finish it after returning home. Well, no true in home family therapy would be scheduled to have the majority of it acccomplished while difficult child isn't even home but the bigger thing was PO telling me it lasted 4 mos then leading difficult child to bellieve most would be done while he's in detention, but never telling me or difficult child that he's in there for 90 days, period. I think PO is the type of person who can't make decisions so he's letting his super and reentry lady make them and his super is on a control/power trip and reentry lady is trying to play MH prof, which she's not but even if she was, she hasn't givern difficult child a MH evaluation and is just another person in a long list who think reading a juvenile record from courts/csu and know all they need to to determine appropriate MH tx. What is most frustrating to me is that instead of difficult child being able to concentrate and work on the issues that caused him these problems, we are yet again having to focus on things like trying to figure out whatt the hidden agenda and real "plan" is- you know, that plan that PO/reentry lady claimed provided a seamless transition, empowerment of the parent, etc.They make such issue over having to be in control and having to be the ones to determine the plan yet they don't know how, at least that's how it looks to me. The only service they do well is lip service. Even difficult child said something similar when he was telling me about PO's visit- he said PO was talking out of both sides of his mouth and it all sounded rehearsed- like someone else had told him what to say then he wouldn't really answer difficult child's questions. Yep, that's him. [/QUOTE]
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