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<blockquote data-quote="Red Chief" data-source="post: 335685" data-attributes="member: 8776"><p>Again, I'm so sorry if I offended anyone here. I'm definitely not trying to start any trouble. And I feel like a dirtball right about now. I have some things to think about. But I do feel like I need to defend my self one last time, then I promise to drop it.</p><p></p><p>easy child is my step-daughter. Because she has such a good relationship with her father, she has never seen me as a father figure, and I've never really tried to be one. She as always seen me more as a brother or a friend. (wife has had to tell her on more than one occasion in the past that I wasn't her little brother, but an adult, because she tried to get me in trouble for something). We had a major argument during her senior year in high school. Since then, she quit talking to me, unless she had to. After she moved out & she would come to visit, all I would get was just a hi and bye. I think there were times she wouldn't pee on me if I were on fire.</p><p></p><p>easy child started smoking totally independent of me. Her roommate has a medical marijuana card, so that's where she picked it up about a year & a half ago. Because of our non-existent relationship, there is nothing I could do or say to make her stop smoking if I wanted to. I haven't taught her anything about it being right or wrong. She made that decision on her own. When my smoking came up when she was younger & living at home, she had no problem voicing her displeasure, so it was quite a surprise when I found out she had started smoking. It might be easy to blame me, but she didn't start until almost a year after she moved out of our house, and into her current place with her stoner roommate.</p><p></p><p>When she made the offer to smoke with me, I was quite surprised. Idecided to take her up on it because I hoped that maybe we would start talking to each other again. And it worked. That night we had a nice talk about her mother's issues & her sisters issues. On the rare occasions that she stops by now, she'll actually talk to me. That's all I wanted. I realize that it might have been the wrong way to go about it, but it was something she was doing anyway.</p><p></p><p>You all have given me a lot to think about though. I do my best to hide it from my difficult child, although she probably knows what I do. I haven't given much thought to what I will say to her when she gets older and exposed to drugs. I never thought about the "you do it" argument I might get. Now I am really giving it some thought.</p><p></p><p>Again, I'm sorry for stirring up this hornets nest, and I promise I will take to heart the things you all have said.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Red Chief, post: 335685, member: 8776"] Again, I'm so sorry if I offended anyone here. I'm definitely not trying to start any trouble. And I feel like a dirtball right about now. I have some things to think about. But I do feel like I need to defend my self one last time, then I promise to drop it. easy child is my step-daughter. Because she has such a good relationship with her father, she has never seen me as a father figure, and I've never really tried to be one. She as always seen me more as a brother or a friend. (wife has had to tell her on more than one occasion in the past that I wasn't her little brother, but an adult, because she tried to get me in trouble for something). We had a major argument during her senior year in high school. Since then, she quit talking to me, unless she had to. After she moved out & she would come to visit, all I would get was just a hi and bye. I think there were times she wouldn't pee on me if I were on fire. easy child started smoking totally independent of me. Her roommate has a medical marijuana card, so that's where she picked it up about a year & a half ago. Because of our non-existent relationship, there is nothing I could do or say to make her stop smoking if I wanted to. I haven't taught her anything about it being right or wrong. She made that decision on her own. When my smoking came up when she was younger & living at home, she had no problem voicing her displeasure, so it was quite a surprise when I found out she had started smoking. It might be easy to blame me, but she didn't start until almost a year after she moved out of our house, and into her current place with her stoner roommate. When she made the offer to smoke with me, I was quite surprised. Idecided to take her up on it because I hoped that maybe we would start talking to each other again. And it worked. That night we had a nice talk about her mother's issues & her sisters issues. On the rare occasions that she stops by now, she'll actually talk to me. That's all I wanted. I realize that it might have been the wrong way to go about it, but it was something she was doing anyway. You all have given me a lot to think about though. I do my best to hide it from my difficult child, although she probably knows what I do. I haven't given much thought to what I will say to her when she gets older and exposed to drugs. I never thought about the "you do it" argument I might get. Now I am really giving it some thought. Again, I'm sorry for stirring up this hornets nest, and I promise I will take to heart the things you all have said. [/QUOTE]
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