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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 490478" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Seriously, </p><p></p><p>Well after years and years of medications - and I'm talking like 65 plus different kinds of medications? Our son finally said absolutely, positively no more medications. His thoughts were scattered but we told him if you want to get off medications then we need to have a legitimate reason why. We'd compromise. You can have one or the other but not all three. See being a teenager should have some privleges about making choices for yourself and your own body. BUT becoming an adult also comes with making adult choices, and that means telling other adults the whys and wherefores like adults are required to do. So while we try to balance learning that our son is no longer FIVE but fifteen - he has to understand that if he wants to be treated like an adult - he has to start behaving like one -NO halfsies. Meaning - FINE - no medications - let's sit and talk about the reasons you don't want for taking them and "I don't wanna, Because, Whatever, I just don't, None of your business, They make me feel icky' are NOT adult answers. </p><p></p><p>In with that - the compromise for us was "okay here's the thing - We will agree (not WE WILL ALLOW) that you're old enough to decide not to take your medication for a period of time and see how it goes;(meaning we're going to monitor your behaviors and we actually HOPE that you do better without them) however since you CHOOSE (another key adult word) not to take your medications as your parents we feel there needs to be some type of stress management to replace the medications you refuse; so you WILL attent therapy once a week for the full hour INSTEAD. NO if ans or butts. AND because you are choosing to not take medications and such we'll forgoe the gastroenteroligist until you tell US you need to see him, but any cancellation of appointment fees made for him will be charged to you. (ALL SIGN CONTRACT). He gets a copy, you keep a copy - like an adult deal. </p><p></p><p>Our son jumped on that deal - and while he tried a few times and balked a little at going to the therapist and a couple times literally got up and walked out of the therapists office once there? The therapist was WAY more clever than we were at holding that childs attention. So once there? With the help of our ADULT deal - we were able to use that to build on - and to this day our son still refuses to take medications. Oddly enough - he's 21, and KNOWS the medications would help him. None of them that I'm aware of would make him feel weird - just help him - and he STILL refuses. So if he chooses to be miserable and live life on his own ridiculous terms - so be it. Three pills a day keeps me very happy and able to not sling a Seattle Slew of names at him for ignoring his depression & making such poor choices. I just know they are his choices - and the consequences are also his - in spades. </p><p></p><p>Hope this helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 490478, member: 4964"] Seriously, Well after years and years of medications - and I'm talking like 65 plus different kinds of medications? Our son finally said absolutely, positively no more medications. His thoughts were scattered but we told him if you want to get off medications then we need to have a legitimate reason why. We'd compromise. You can have one or the other but not all three. See being a teenager should have some privleges about making choices for yourself and your own body. BUT becoming an adult also comes with making adult choices, and that means telling other adults the whys and wherefores like adults are required to do. So while we try to balance learning that our son is no longer FIVE but fifteen - he has to understand that if he wants to be treated like an adult - he has to start behaving like one -NO halfsies. Meaning - FINE - no medications - let's sit and talk about the reasons you don't want for taking them and "I don't wanna, Because, Whatever, I just don't, None of your business, They make me feel icky' are NOT adult answers. In with that - the compromise for us was "okay here's the thing - We will agree (not WE WILL ALLOW) that you're old enough to decide not to take your medication for a period of time and see how it goes;(meaning we're going to monitor your behaviors and we actually HOPE that you do better without them) however since you CHOOSE (another key adult word) not to take your medications as your parents we feel there needs to be some type of stress management to replace the medications you refuse; so you WILL attent therapy once a week for the full hour INSTEAD. NO if ans or butts. AND because you are choosing to not take medications and such we'll forgoe the gastroenteroligist until you tell US you need to see him, but any cancellation of appointment fees made for him will be charged to you. (ALL SIGN CONTRACT). He gets a copy, you keep a copy - like an adult deal. Our son jumped on that deal - and while he tried a few times and balked a little at going to the therapist and a couple times literally got up and walked out of the therapists office once there? The therapist was WAY more clever than we were at holding that childs attention. So once there? With the help of our ADULT deal - we were able to use that to build on - and to this day our son still refuses to take medications. Oddly enough - he's 21, and KNOWS the medications would help him. None of them that I'm aware of would make him feel weird - just help him - and he STILL refuses. So if he chooses to be miserable and live life on his own ridiculous terms - so be it. Three pills a day keeps me very happy and able to not sling a Seattle Slew of names at him for ignoring his depression & making such poor choices. I just know they are his choices - and the consequences are also his - in spades. Hope this helps. [/QUOTE]
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