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AmericanGirl
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difficult child got paid today. Texted me to say he would be in town tomorrow. Told him he couldn't afford the gas.
His check was $224 for two weeks. His rent is $290 per pay period. He's already two weeks behind. difficult child only worked about 14 hours this week. Claims he can't work more because then he couldn't go to meetings, etc. <cue sad violin music>
He also told me he was swapping his food stamps for gas/cigarettes at the local quick mart. He denied that was illegal.
difficult child came back here two weeks ago. I know he was with a lot of old playmates. I'm not financing that. Told him so. He basically told me I was stressing him out to the point he was going to relapse and it would all be my fault.
I hung up on him. difficult child called back. I told him I would not be threatened or abused. As soon as I said that, the sober house manager returned my call so I hung up on difficult child again and took the call. (Yeah, I know I shouldn't hang up on him but I'm truly afraid if I don't back off at the moment that I will explode with anger and make everything worse.)
It seems difficult child told him that the manager was getting a check for $275 soon which would go for the rent. That's for the reinstatement fee for his license (I found out it would be refunded as he was found not guilty). That's MY money as I paid for it. Sober house manager didn't know that.
Told him about everything I knew about difficult child's recent activities. He said he would talk to him tomorrow. I am to call manager after 4:30 p.m. for an update.
While we were talking, difficult child kept calling my cell and the house. I didn't answer. Afterward, I saw difficult child posted on FB something like I'm about ready to say f&^% this place. Then it was 'that it will be like the Holocaust times three.' Then, 'expect the unexpected.' It's beginning to sound like threats.
I looked at his FB messages. Someone asked him what was up. He rplied "I got this. It's a strategy."
However, the old girlfriend...the one he plans to stay with tomorrow night who supposedly supports him in sobriety, clicked she liked his status. Hmmmm
If it walks like a duck and talks like a duck...well, you know the rest of that.
So, I called my sponsor and promised him I would not look at FB for the rest of the night. I texted a few friends to let them know I needed prayers. I would appreciate your prayers too.
I am worn out from dealing with difficult child. I will NOT be his scapegoat for another relapse. His sobriety is HIS, not mine.
Anyhow, going to work late tonight until I can fall asleep easily. Promised my sponsor I'd call first thing in the morning.
Thanks for giving me a place to vent my feelings. It helps.
His check was $224 for two weeks. His rent is $290 per pay period. He's already two weeks behind. difficult child only worked about 14 hours this week. Claims he can't work more because then he couldn't go to meetings, etc. <cue sad violin music>
He also told me he was swapping his food stamps for gas/cigarettes at the local quick mart. He denied that was illegal.
difficult child came back here two weeks ago. I know he was with a lot of old playmates. I'm not financing that. Told him so. He basically told me I was stressing him out to the point he was going to relapse and it would all be my fault.
I hung up on him. difficult child called back. I told him I would not be threatened or abused. As soon as I said that, the sober house manager returned my call so I hung up on difficult child again and took the call. (Yeah, I know I shouldn't hang up on him but I'm truly afraid if I don't back off at the moment that I will explode with anger and make everything worse.)
It seems difficult child told him that the manager was getting a check for $275 soon which would go for the rent. That's for the reinstatement fee for his license (I found out it would be refunded as he was found not guilty). That's MY money as I paid for it. Sober house manager didn't know that.
Told him about everything I knew about difficult child's recent activities. He said he would talk to him tomorrow. I am to call manager after 4:30 p.m. for an update.
While we were talking, difficult child kept calling my cell and the house. I didn't answer. Afterward, I saw difficult child posted on FB something like I'm about ready to say f&^% this place. Then it was 'that it will be like the Holocaust times three.' Then, 'expect the unexpected.' It's beginning to sound like threats.
I looked at his FB messages. Someone asked him what was up. He rplied "I got this. It's a strategy."
However, the old girlfriend...the one he plans to stay with tomorrow night who supposedly supports him in sobriety, clicked she liked his status. Hmmmm
If it walks like a duck and talks like a duck...well, you know the rest of that.
So, I called my sponsor and promised him I would not look at FB for the rest of the night. I texted a few friends to let them know I needed prayers. I would appreciate your prayers too.
I am worn out from dealing with difficult child. I will NOT be his scapegoat for another relapse. His sobriety is HIS, not mine.
Anyhow, going to work late tonight until I can fall asleep easily. Promised my sponsor I'd call first thing in the morning.
Thanks for giving me a place to vent my feelings. It helps.
