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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 620851" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I'm not an expert as we never did do rehab, but isn't three weeks an awfully short time for a rehab? Maybe she just wasn't ready to leave and be tested. Does she go to AA or NA meetings? Have you tried to find the comfort and camaraderie of real life support at an Al-Anon or Narc-Anon meeting? They have them seven days a week and I found them very helpful and comforting and validating. I still go from time to time because 36 drinks every day and I worry that he is an alcoholic (functional). Yet I'm not sure, as he lives several states away, and I sometimes still need the wisdom of the Twelve Steps. </p><p></p><p>When I first went, I was too afraid to speak, and nobody forced me to, but I did a lot of listening and learning.</p><p></p><p>At least she is expressing a desire to quit, which is better than the difficult children who insist they aren't addicted. I have to agree with Nancy, though. Watch her, of course, but she is the one who has to do the hard work. Sadly, this is one thing we can't do for our grown children even if we wanted to take over and make things better. And their peers don't help. Does she still hang around with rowdy peers? When she rejects the drinkers/drug users t hat is when you will KNOW she is serious about changing. It is very hard to change while your friends are getting drunk and high and partying. My daughter had to move far away and cut off her friends, even by e-mail (FB wasn't around back then). She was very lonely for a long time, but she did not want to be tempted. It would not have been hard to have found more drug friends in her new state. Sadly, they are everywhere and sometimes the most accepting of all peers.</p><p></p><p>Take heart and have a peaceful, serene night. Tomorrow is another brand new day and I hope your family can sit back and enjoy it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 620851, member: 1550"] I'm not an expert as we never did do rehab, but isn't three weeks an awfully short time for a rehab? Maybe she just wasn't ready to leave and be tested. Does she go to AA or NA meetings? Have you tried to find the comfort and camaraderie of real life support at an Al-Anon or Narc-Anon meeting? They have them seven days a week and I found them very helpful and comforting and validating. I still go from time to time because 36 drinks every day and I worry that he is an alcoholic (functional). Yet I'm not sure, as he lives several states away, and I sometimes still need the wisdom of the Twelve Steps. When I first went, I was too afraid to speak, and nobody forced me to, but I did a lot of listening and learning. At least she is expressing a desire to quit, which is better than the difficult children who insist they aren't addicted. I have to agree with Nancy, though. Watch her, of course, but she is the one who has to do the hard work. Sadly, this is one thing we can't do for our grown children even if we wanted to take over and make things better. And their peers don't help. Does she still hang around with rowdy peers? When she rejects the drinkers/drug users t hat is when you will KNOW she is serious about changing. It is very hard to change while your friends are getting drunk and high and partying. My daughter had to move far away and cut off her friends, even by e-mail (FB wasn't around back then). She was very lonely for a long time, but she did not want to be tempted. It would not have been hard to have found more drug friends in her new state. Sadly, they are everywhere and sometimes the most accepting of all peers. Take heart and have a peaceful, serene night. Tomorrow is another brand new day and I hope your family can sit back and enjoy it. [/QUOTE]
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