Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Release from Phospital?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="WNC Gal" data-source="post: 47384" data-attributes="member: 3783"><p>As a parent who is new to these psychiatric issues (only for past 9 months) - I am frequently stunned at how much my daughter's quality of care seems based upon my involvement. I don't just mean attending treatment team meetings and educating myself about her diagnosis(es). I feel (at times) that I have a new full time job and I have to be completely devoted to every aspect of her care whether it is researching placement options, requesting medical records from her numerous hospitalizations at various places, assembling a concise, chronological history of her various inpatient, outpatient and suicidal episodes as well as a carefully documented calendar of all of her medication changes (by the five psychiatrists who have taken care of her). And I think because of my HUGE investment in her care (I do have a "never used" degree in psychiatric), the treatment team makes decisions based upon that. Such as - in January, they recommended that we bring her home to be homeschooled - instead of pushing her to attend a TBS (therapeutic boarding school) where she could easily get "kicked out" for her self-injurious and suicidal impulses. Well - that worked for about a month and half at a time (in between suicidal crashes and acute hospitalizations) but it took a huge toll on her siblings, my husband and I and even my job (we home-schooled her at our office). I think it was a TERRIBLE mistake for them to release a chronically suicidal 14 year old girl back to the challenging environment of home-schooling (when she is accustomed to public school and her social circle) - especially when she has a proven track record of NOT disclosing when she is crashing and NOT confiding in her therapists. </p><p></p><p>I have no problem with continuing to be the "super parent" as long as it is not compromising her care - my husband and I are NOT qualified to treat and cope with this level of illness. We are relieved to be on the verge of getting her placed at a PRTF. </p><p></p><p>we'll still continue to work hard - to keep in touch with her frequently - to continue to offer therapy to her younger siblings to be sure they are coping ok, and to work closely with the program in family therapy. We even do on-line courses in parenting and relationship skills at FamilyIQ - even though we are very patient, loving and definitely not the CAUSE of our darling child's issues. We will be pursuing DBT skills training too as this is supposed to be VERY effective with Borderline (BPD) behaviors.</p><p></p><p>I know better, but for the past nine months (through all of the frequent emergency craziness) I have not been taking very good care of myself. I only exercise about once a week, sleep horribly, and find myself eating junk and comfort food to soothe myself. Perhaps when she is finally settled at a PRTF, I can resolve to begin taking better care of myself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WNC Gal, post: 47384, member: 3783"] As a parent who is new to these psychiatric issues (only for past 9 months) - I am frequently stunned at how much my daughter's quality of care seems based upon my involvement. I don't just mean attending treatment team meetings and educating myself about her diagnosis(es). I feel (at times) that I have a new full time job and I have to be completely devoted to every aspect of her care whether it is researching placement options, requesting medical records from her numerous hospitalizations at various places, assembling a concise, chronological history of her various inpatient, outpatient and suicidal episodes as well as a carefully documented calendar of all of her medication changes (by the five psychiatrists who have taken care of her). And I think because of my HUGE investment in her care (I do have a "never used" degree in psychiatric), the treatment team makes decisions based upon that. Such as - in January, they recommended that we bring her home to be homeschooled - instead of pushing her to attend a TBS (therapeutic boarding school) where she could easily get "kicked out" for her self-injurious and suicidal impulses. Well - that worked for about a month and half at a time (in between suicidal crashes and acute hospitalizations) but it took a huge toll on her siblings, my husband and I and even my job (we home-schooled her at our office). I think it was a TERRIBLE mistake for them to release a chronically suicidal 14 year old girl back to the challenging environment of home-schooling (when she is accustomed to public school and her social circle) - especially when she has a proven track record of NOT disclosing when she is crashing and NOT confiding in her therapists. I have no problem with continuing to be the "super parent" as long as it is not compromising her care - my husband and I are NOT qualified to treat and cope with this level of illness. We are relieved to be on the verge of getting her placed at a PRTF. we'll still continue to work hard - to keep in touch with her frequently - to continue to offer therapy to her younger siblings to be sure they are coping ok, and to work closely with the program in family therapy. We even do on-line courses in parenting and relationship skills at FamilyIQ - even though we are very patient, loving and definitely not the CAUSE of our darling child's issues. We will be pursuing DBT skills training too as this is supposed to be VERY effective with Borderline (BPD) behaviors. I know better, but for the past nine months (through all of the frequent emergency craziness) I have not been taking very good care of myself. I only exercise about once a week, sleep horribly, and find myself eating junk and comfort food to soothe myself. Perhaps when she is finally settled at a PRTF, I can resolve to begin taking better care of myself. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Release from Phospital?
Top