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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 758859" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Hi. Welcome to our world, sadly. </p><p></p><p>Your son is acting like an addict who may also have borderline, like our Kay. She cuts, threatens suicide and almost broke our bank. We finally said NO. We can't and won't help her anymore. It hasn't helped her and it hurts us. </p><p></p><p>We made it clear to Kay that each time she threatened suicide we would call 911. So she stopped. We refused to talk to her about how WE had to fix her problems. Um no. No no no.</p><p></p><p>She is living in an old camper now. Not sure where she is. Last we knew for sure it was Arizona. Her son lives with our other daughter now. He is a child, so our main concern. But he is safe.</p><p></p><p>I don't feel you need to tell your son anything. He is in self destruct mode expecting you to bail him out, but how can you? We learned we can not fix another person. Especially not an addict who is like a defiant child. I would limit phone contact. We did. It was helpful to our peace. If he calls to ask for money just say no. No is a complete sentence. As for the insurance...he can get Medicaid. Kay is on it now.</p><p></p><p>My heart hurts for you because I get it. Kay is not very different from your son. These are difficult adults who behave in puzzling ways. We can't control them. Yet, like children, they ask for our help even thought they won't help themselves.</p><p></p><p>Your husband and you deserve to have peace. </p><p></p><p>Love and hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 758859, member: 23706"] Hi. Welcome to our world, sadly. Your son is acting like an addict who may also have borderline, like our Kay. She cuts, threatens suicide and almost broke our bank. We finally said NO. We can't and won't help her anymore. It hasn't helped her and it hurts us. We made it clear to Kay that each time she threatened suicide we would call 911. So she stopped. We refused to talk to her about how WE had to fix her problems. Um no. No no no. She is living in an old camper now. Not sure where she is. Last we knew for sure it was Arizona. Her son lives with our other daughter now. He is a child, so our main concern. But he is safe. I don't feel you need to tell your son anything. He is in self destruct mode expecting you to bail him out, but how can you? We learned we can not fix another person. Especially not an addict who is like a defiant child. I would limit phone contact. We did. It was helpful to our peace. If he calls to ask for money just say no. No is a complete sentence. As for the insurance...he can get Medicaid. Kay is on it now. My heart hurts for you because I get it. Kay is not very different from your son. These are difficult adults who behave in puzzling ways. We can't control them. Yet, like children, they ask for our help even thought they won't help themselves. Your husband and you deserve to have peace. Love and hugs. [/QUOTE]
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