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Remember Those Behavior Goals I Was Supposed to Write...?
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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 423698" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Just a reminder- I still feel your pain. I spoke with difficult child's PO the other day (whom I have to keep in contact with even though difficult child is in Department of Juvenile Justice). He told me months ago that he'd look into a group home/halfway house for difficult child to go to upon his release. The other day when I said something about my determination this time to stick to the idea that psychiatrist had said a few years ago, that difficult child and I needed to work out problems before he came home since he had become violent with me and pulled a knife on me, PO says "oh, yes, we can do that- he can come home and I'll order an intensive in-home therapist to come to your home a few evenings a week." I said "OH- you mean for a behavior contract?" He said "well, yes". I laughed and yelled he!! NO.First time I was willing to give that a chance we got the MST guy who wanted a contract where I'd fix the food difficult child wanted more often for dinner and difficult child wouldn't break the law anymore. After difficult child first threatened me with a knife, that PO ordered in-home therapy and difficult child had pulled the knife on me before it even started. These people really don't get it at all. They think the issue is a kid not minding well due to a parent not using consistent punishment and that it can all be negotiated. I am sure this PO has even read any of difficult child's file- shoot, every time we talk I have to tell him why difficult child is in there. He doesn't have a clue about the full hx and for some reason thinks he can determine appropriate parole requirements without finding out.</p><p></p><p>Keep in mind, they normally hire the least experienced people for these jobs because they can get them for less money and they are ususally people just starting out in a field. It also means that most are young, no kids of their own over the age of 5, and still relating "good parenting" concepts to what they think their parent should have done differently when they were growing up. because all they can relate to is still being a teen at home.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 423698, member: 3699"] Just a reminder- I still feel your pain. I spoke with difficult child's PO the other day (whom I have to keep in contact with even though difficult child is in Department of Juvenile Justice). He told me months ago that he'd look into a group home/halfway house for difficult child to go to upon his release. The other day when I said something about my determination this time to stick to the idea that psychiatrist had said a few years ago, that difficult child and I needed to work out problems before he came home since he had become violent with me and pulled a knife on me, PO says "oh, yes, we can do that- he can come home and I'll order an intensive in-home therapist to come to your home a few evenings a week." I said "OH- you mean for a behavior contract?" He said "well, yes". I laughed and yelled he!! NO.First time I was willing to give that a chance we got the MST guy who wanted a contract where I'd fix the food difficult child wanted more often for dinner and difficult child wouldn't break the law anymore. After difficult child first threatened me with a knife, that PO ordered in-home therapy and difficult child had pulled the knife on me before it even started. These people really don't get it at all. They think the issue is a kid not minding well due to a parent not using consistent punishment and that it can all be negotiated. I am sure this PO has even read any of difficult child's file- shoot, every time we talk I have to tell him why difficult child is in there. He doesn't have a clue about the full hx and for some reason thinks he can determine appropriate parole requirements without finding out. Keep in mind, they normally hire the least experienced people for these jobs because they can get them for less money and they are ususally people just starting out in a field. It also means that most are young, no kids of their own over the age of 5, and still relating "good parenting" concepts to what they think their parent should have done differently when they were growing up. because all they can relate to is still being a teen at home. [/QUOTE]
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