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Remember Those Behavior Goals I Was Supposed to Write...?
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 423945" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>hey, ladies, don't think that behavior charts don't work!! They do -- the one the therapist at the first children's hospital we went to made up really AWESOME behavior charts! They were on a thick cardstock and had really cool colors and fancy stickers and a list of really great rewards!!</p><p> </p><p>After the paper airplanes kept hitting me in the face and landing my my coffee I had to finally give up on the wonderful behavior chart.</p><p> </p><p>I DID get almost an hour of peace and quiet out of them though!!! And the stickers looked REALLY COOL the way Wiz used them to decorate the planes!!!</p><p> </p><p>The therapist was NOT. HAPPY. when he heard this. He had the stones to ask me why I didn't take them away from him, why I 'let' him make paper airplanes out of them.</p><p> </p><p>My reply was that the therapist and Wiz had made a CONTRACT that Wiz would do these things on the chart and would get a sticker for each one AND (most idiotic of all) that Wiz was in charge of the chart. he had to follow the rules but Mom and Dad were NOT NOT NOT to touch those charts, to remind him to do what was on the chart, or to put the sticker on ourselved. We were told to aact like it didn't exist until he had gotten enough stickers to get the reward and then to lavish him with praise and rewards.</p><p> </p><p>The guy just sat there for a couple of minutes stammering that we didn't understand what he meant when he said we would keep our hands off the chart and Wiz was in charge of it. Then I tok his file, opened it to the page wehre he wrote down that we couldn't touch the chart, etc... - in his own handwriting! It was sort of interesting to see the way it blew the guys mind!</p><p> </p><p>DF - PLEASE go to google, the library or amazon and look for books on sibling abuse. It really has a HUGE impact that can last forever. There are some great books on the subject but I cannot remember the author. If nothing else you will have it to take to meetings as you discuss how much violence is acceptable to CPS and how much isn't - is it okay to only abuse him on Wed morning between 4 and 9?? </p><p> </p><p>I am sorry this isn't taken seriously - in my opinion sibling abuse is truly heinous because it is children turning on others. I am still struggling with it with my bro though Wiz and I hav emoved past that motherly anger that I felt when he hurt the others.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 423945, member: 1233"] hey, ladies, don't think that behavior charts don't work!! They do -- the one the therapist at the first children's hospital we went to made up really AWESOME behavior charts! They were on a thick cardstock and had really cool colors and fancy stickers and a list of really great rewards!! After the paper airplanes kept hitting me in the face and landing my my coffee I had to finally give up on the wonderful behavior chart. I DID get almost an hour of peace and quiet out of them though!!! And the stickers looked REALLY COOL the way Wiz used them to decorate the planes!!! The therapist was NOT. HAPPY. when he heard this. He had the stones to ask me why I didn't take them away from him, why I 'let' him make paper airplanes out of them. My reply was that the therapist and Wiz had made a CONTRACT that Wiz would do these things on the chart and would get a sticker for each one AND (most idiotic of all) that Wiz was in charge of the chart. he had to follow the rules but Mom and Dad were NOT NOT NOT to touch those charts, to remind him to do what was on the chart, or to put the sticker on ourselved. We were told to aact like it didn't exist until he had gotten enough stickers to get the reward and then to lavish him with praise and rewards. The guy just sat there for a couple of minutes stammering that we didn't understand what he meant when he said we would keep our hands off the chart and Wiz was in charge of it. Then I tok his file, opened it to the page wehre he wrote down that we couldn't touch the chart, etc... - in his own handwriting! It was sort of interesting to see the way it blew the guys mind! DF - PLEASE go to google, the library or amazon and look for books on sibling abuse. It really has a HUGE impact that can last forever. There are some great books on the subject but I cannot remember the author. If nothing else you will have it to take to meetings as you discuss how much violence is acceptable to CPS and how much isn't - is it okay to only abuse him on Wed morning between 4 and 9?? I am sorry this isn't taken seriously - in my opinion sibling abuse is truly heinous because it is children turning on others. I am still struggling with it with my bro though Wiz and I hav emoved past that motherly anger that I felt when he hurt the others. [/QUOTE]
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