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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 527659" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I'm so glad this thread was started because I felt the need to start one after watching yesterday and honestly couldn't even figure how to do so....thanks CJ.</p><p></p><p>Yesterday was my introduction to this family. I took it <strong>very</strong> personally and wished I had a skype or direct connect to the show so I could interject with questions. Mainly I wanted to say "Why are you berating the parents after the fact instead of guiding them prior to their missteps?" </p><p></p><p>I have been there done that with a dysfunctional adult daughter (although not a drug addict). Of course I have also lived over ten years with a substance abusing former easy child/difficult child. I know both sides of this story....and the suffering that comes to the parent who tries to pick up the pieces. When Dr. Phil said "God bless you for providing a safe nurturing loving home for your grandchildren" I immediately thought about how many sincere people have said that to me over the past twentyfive years. I was 46 when easy child/difficult child was born. I'm guessing this Mom is likely early forties. She and her husband likely think there is an end in sight. The children are well cared for and safe. The couple wtruggles each day to keep their marriage intact. Their daughter is in a fine treatment center and has over one hundred days sober. The Mom and Dad got reemed out???????? Not fair.</p><p></p><p>The Mom tries to keep in contact with her now sober daughter. She is confronted with "how do you think that makes your daughter feel to hear her children in the background?" WTH! The Mom tries to keep the daughter in touch with the children by letting them speak on the phone and WTH she is accused of causing her daughter pain??</p><p>The Mom tells the daughter, evidently, "it will be great when you can come home to Florida" and WTH Dr. Phil says she can never go back to that environment.</p><p></p><p>When the Mom cried and said "I have been doing my best and didn't know I was making mistakes 'Why didn't you tell me?' so I wouldn't do or say anything wrong?" Basically (by that time I was subjectively involved) the response was "You have to stop being controlling."</p><p></p><p>I'll watch today. I want to know why it was "controlling" to let GFGmom talk to and see her children. Truthfully I wish I had found a way to keep her 100% away from both boys but legally I couldn't get that done. I'm eager to hear Dr. Phil say "you and your husband have these boys for life and leave your daughter alone to find a life free of drugs". Parents like most of us who are "lovinvly controlling" would follow any step by step manual on how to love your kid but raise their children with-o stress. Boy, can you tell I am chapped off?? DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 527659, member: 35"] I'm so glad this thread was started because I felt the need to start one after watching yesterday and honestly couldn't even figure how to do so....thanks CJ. Yesterday was my introduction to this family. I took it [B]very[/B] personally and wished I had a skype or direct connect to the show so I could interject with questions. Mainly I wanted to say "Why are you berating the parents after the fact instead of guiding them prior to their missteps?" I have been there done that with a dysfunctional adult daughter (although not a drug addict). Of course I have also lived over ten years with a substance abusing former easy child/difficult child. I know both sides of this story....and the suffering that comes to the parent who tries to pick up the pieces. When Dr. Phil said "God bless you for providing a safe nurturing loving home for your grandchildren" I immediately thought about how many sincere people have said that to me over the past twentyfive years. I was 46 when easy child/difficult child was born. I'm guessing this Mom is likely early forties. She and her husband likely think there is an end in sight. The children are well cared for and safe. The couple wtruggles each day to keep their marriage intact. Their daughter is in a fine treatment center and has over one hundred days sober. The Mom and Dad got reemed out???????? Not fair. The Mom tries to keep in contact with her now sober daughter. She is confronted with "how do you think that makes your daughter feel to hear her children in the background?" WTH! The Mom tries to keep the daughter in touch with the children by letting them speak on the phone and WTH she is accused of causing her daughter pain?? The Mom tells the daughter, evidently, "it will be great when you can come home to Florida" and WTH Dr. Phil says she can never go back to that environment. When the Mom cried and said "I have been doing my best and didn't know I was making mistakes 'Why didn't you tell me?' so I wouldn't do or say anything wrong?" Basically (by that time I was subjectively involved) the response was "You have to stop being controlling." I'll watch today. I want to know why it was "controlling" to let GFGmom talk to and see her children. Truthfully I wish I had found a way to keep her 100% away from both boys but legally I couldn't get that done. I'm eager to hear Dr. Phil say "you and your husband have these boys for life and leave your daughter alone to find a life free of drugs". Parents like most of us who are "lovinvly controlling" would follow any step by step manual on how to love your kid but raise their children with-o stress. Boy, can you tell I am chapped off?? DDD [/QUOTE]
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