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Reported my 19 yo to his Probation Officer
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<blockquote data-quote="pinevalley" data-source="post: 601579" data-attributes="member: 3710"><p>Gwen,</p><p></p><p>Welcome to this board. You will find a lot of support here from very wise parents. </p><p>I have a 19 year old son who also started using pot in high school, and he was also selling it to make money to buy more drugs. He started stealing jewelry to support his habit, and he was eventually arrested on two felony charges. My h and I paid for an attorney, and our difficult child stayed in jail for 9 months while a deal was worked out with the judge. The judge sentenced my difficult child to a special probation for drug offenders, and if he stayed out of trouble for 2 years the felony charges can be expunged from his record. This was really a gift to our son, and he had a chance to turn his life around. He was totally clean for 3 weeks after he was released from jail, and then he started using pot and other drugs again. One of the rules of the court was that he had to be drug tested every month, and my difficult child failed 2 of his first 3 drugs tests. His probation offices violated him for testing positive, and the judge sent difficult child back to jail again. He has been sitting in jail for 5 months, while he has been going through a drug treatment program in jail. The judge will probably put difficult child back on probation soon, and he will have another chance to get his life together. However he may decide to use drugs again when he is out of jail, because Nothing is more important to him when he wants to get high. Not family, not the possibility of going to prison, NOTHING. I'm sure that you know this, but the threat of going to jail is no guarantee that these teens will make good decisions about drug use. I am trying to have no expectations at all about my son's future, because there is absolutely nothing that I can do to prevent him from using drugs if he wants to. Please try to find support for yourself during this time, from a therapist, Alanon or a Families Anonymous group. I have found the FA groups to be incredibly helpful, because everyone in the group understands exactly what I am going through with my difficult child. Good luck, and keep posting at this site. It really does help!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pinevalley, post: 601579, member: 3710"] Gwen, Welcome to this board. You will find a lot of support here from very wise parents. I have a 19 year old son who also started using pot in high school, and he was also selling it to make money to buy more drugs. He started stealing jewelry to support his habit, and he was eventually arrested on two felony charges. My h and I paid for an attorney, and our difficult child stayed in jail for 9 months while a deal was worked out with the judge. The judge sentenced my difficult child to a special probation for drug offenders, and if he stayed out of trouble for 2 years the felony charges can be expunged from his record. This was really a gift to our son, and he had a chance to turn his life around. He was totally clean for 3 weeks after he was released from jail, and then he started using pot and other drugs again. One of the rules of the court was that he had to be drug tested every month, and my difficult child failed 2 of his first 3 drugs tests. His probation offices violated him for testing positive, and the judge sent difficult child back to jail again. He has been sitting in jail for 5 months, while he has been going through a drug treatment program in jail. The judge will probably put difficult child back on probation soon, and he will have another chance to get his life together. However he may decide to use drugs again when he is out of jail, because Nothing is more important to him when he wants to get high. Not family, not the possibility of going to prison, NOTHING. I'm sure that you know this, but the threat of going to jail is no guarantee that these teens will make good decisions about drug use. I am trying to have no expectations at all about my son's future, because there is absolutely nothing that I can do to prevent him from using drugs if he wants to. Please try to find support for yourself during this time, from a therapist, Alanon or a Families Anonymous group. I have found the FA groups to be incredibly helpful, because everyone in the group understands exactly what I am going through with my difficult child. Good luck, and keep posting at this site. It really does help! [/QUOTE]
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