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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 233613" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Hey all! Crazy, our Children Services Board (CSB)/mental health is whole different issue. I've psoted about it several times in the past- it's a no-go- they won't talk to me; I can't access them- trust me- I know it's not supposed to be that way but it is. </p><p></p><p>I'm going to shoot for getting psychiatric hospital's recommendation for Residential Treatment Center (RTC)- and in writing.</p><p></p><p>If this idiot PO was more worried about what she should be doing to prevent difficult child from getting in further trouble instead of being so worried about me not letting him watch M rated games, me being over-protective, and telling me what other parental choices she wants me to make, and trying to hold me accountable, we wouldn't be in this situation. This started well over a year ago with her. I am going to pursue finding out who's in charge of her and her supervisor.</p><p></p><p>I think I should make a list of some of her statements- like me taking difficult child out to pick up garbage from a park as community service after he got in trouble was giving him more fresh air and freedom than he deserved. And, after he bolted out of the house last year without permission and got in trouble, she told the judge that I should be held accountable for not knowing where difficult child was and what he was doing. But, when I won't hand him a cell phone and tell him to go out and have fun just call me and let me know where you are, I'm being over protective. And, when I got difficult child into local children's clinic for mood disorders, which is a part of the state teaching hospital, for an MDE, she told me I was wasting my time to do that and she didn't see why I was doing it and that she didn't think I should take difficult child because the judge didn't order it. I'm sure I can think of a few others too.</p><p></p><p>One of the counselors came by while I was visiting difficult child tonight. He told difficult child (in front of me) that he needed to get more serious about why he was there and open up and talk more about things in group. After he left, difficult child told me that he didn't know why he did what he did. I told him that I was going to talk about him being placed somewhere and living some place else for a while when we had our family meeting but that I was not abandoning him and I would still be visiting him and so forth. I told him I was worried about him and he thanked me. </p><p></p><p>I reminded him that he's done other things too and it just kept getting worse until it got to that point. He said he knew and that he knew it couldn't really be just wanting cigarettes because nobody would do that for cigarettes. Then he said that he just really couldn't figure out why he had been doing those things- and that he could see that maybe some things he had been doing or saying around kids at school and in neighborhood made them feel bullied by him. (I didn't know that part.) </p><p></p><p>I told him that he's going to keep growing and getting bigger and stronger and taller and that he needed to get a grip on this so he didn't end up being a man who abuses his wife and children or others someday. He said he knew that and that he can't be treating women like that, or others, but especially, no one should ever do that to their own mom. He said he couldn't change it though or get help for it if he couldn't figure out why he was doing it and he was trying hard to figure that out. I suggested he start by saying that in group tomorrow. He said he would.</p><p></p><p>I cried the whole drive home. I am just so glad he didn't kill me. Look at the county we live in and on top of his own issues, he would have had to live with that, without anyone to fight for him left in his life, and a so-called safety net that really doesn't even see him now- they would throw him away for sure if he did seriously injure or God forbid, kill someone. I'm not suggesting that people who do anything like that get off scott-free, but the shame to me is that it's all preventable in difficult child's case, I believe with all my heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 233613, member: 3699"] Hey all! Crazy, our Children Services Board (CSB)/mental health is whole different issue. I've psoted about it several times in the past- it's a no-go- they won't talk to me; I can't access them- trust me- I know it's not supposed to be that way but it is. I'm going to shoot for getting psychiatric hospital's recommendation for Residential Treatment Center (RTC)- and in writing. If this idiot PO was more worried about what she should be doing to prevent difficult child from getting in further trouble instead of being so worried about me not letting him watch M rated games, me being over-protective, and telling me what other parental choices she wants me to make, and trying to hold me accountable, we wouldn't be in this situation. This started well over a year ago with her. I am going to pursue finding out who's in charge of her and her supervisor. I think I should make a list of some of her statements- like me taking difficult child out to pick up garbage from a park as community service after he got in trouble was giving him more fresh air and freedom than he deserved. And, after he bolted out of the house last year without permission and got in trouble, she told the judge that I should be held accountable for not knowing where difficult child was and what he was doing. But, when I won't hand him a cell phone and tell him to go out and have fun just call me and let me know where you are, I'm being over protective. And, when I got difficult child into local children's clinic for mood disorders, which is a part of the state teaching hospital, for an MDE, she told me I was wasting my time to do that and she didn't see why I was doing it and that she didn't think I should take difficult child because the judge didn't order it. I'm sure I can think of a few others too. One of the counselors came by while I was visiting difficult child tonight. He told difficult child (in front of me) that he needed to get more serious about why he was there and open up and talk more about things in group. After he left, difficult child told me that he didn't know why he did what he did. I told him that I was going to talk about him being placed somewhere and living some place else for a while when we had our family meeting but that I was not abandoning him and I would still be visiting him and so forth. I told him I was worried about him and he thanked me. I reminded him that he's done other things too and it just kept getting worse until it got to that point. He said he knew and that he knew it couldn't really be just wanting cigarettes because nobody would do that for cigarettes. Then he said that he just really couldn't figure out why he had been doing those things- and that he could see that maybe some things he had been doing or saying around kids at school and in neighborhood made them feel bullied by him. (I didn't know that part.) I told him that he's going to keep growing and getting bigger and stronger and taller and that he needed to get a grip on this so he didn't end up being a man who abuses his wife and children or others someday. He said he knew that and that he can't be treating women like that, or others, but especially, no one should ever do that to their own mom. He said he couldn't change it though or get help for it if he couldn't figure out why he was doing it and he was trying hard to figure that out. I suggested he start by saying that in group tomorrow. He said he would. I cried the whole drive home. I am just so glad he didn't kill me. Look at the county we live in and on top of his own issues, he would have had to live with that, without anyone to fight for him left in his life, and a so-called safety net that really doesn't even see him now- they would throw him away for sure if he did seriously injure or God forbid, kill someone. I'm not suggesting that people who do anything like that get off scott-free, but the shame to me is that it's all preventable in difficult child's case, I believe with all my heart. [/QUOTE]
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