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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 166391" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>JJJ - Unfortunately Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is going to set up some ridiculous habits in terms of outings and shopping with Kanga. We've run into it in every doggone placement and I still don't know how to fight it, other than *not* do visits at placement anymore and have thank you come home, where we are "boring".</p><p> </p><p>Movies, shopping, video arcades, eating out, bowling, yada yada yada. On the one hand, I understand it because they have to keep the kids occupied, but on the other, we cannot possibly match the level of fun activity. </p><p> </p><p>thank you's first Residential Treatment Center (RTC) was connected with a charitable group and was in an affluent area. OMG - you should have *seen* the Christmas presents he got. Karaoke machine, Play Station - it was nuts. One year he wanted an art set, so I got him one. A benefactor did too... ours paled in comparison.</p><p> </p><p>The allowance ... don't quote me, but I think part of this is mandated because she's getting (or will be getting) SSI. If you object to what she is buying, you should talk with therapist and staff. When thank you was getting into his Wicca/vampire junk, we made it very clear this was not acceptable and should not be allowed. Ditto his death/black metal music and his all black wardrobe. Pretty much, our home rules applied at all placements in terms of his purchases (except now, which is of course another story altogether - ugh!). Staff was pretty good about keeping him in line, but ... peers were not much help.</p><p> </p><p>I'd also talk with them about snack issues - they certainly can monitor if that's an issue.</p><p> </p><p>It's hard to see her getting rewards for not doing much - I totally understand. I think part of it too is building relationships with staff now, while she's still honeymooning. I never gave a second thought to 1:1 time - once I made the mental leap to understanding that these folks were essentially his surrogate parents (very very hard thing to deal with), I really had no choice but to place my whole trust in them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 166391, member: 8"] JJJ - Unfortunately Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is going to set up some ridiculous habits in terms of outings and shopping with Kanga. We've run into it in every doggone placement and I still don't know how to fight it, other than *not* do visits at placement anymore and have thank you come home, where we are "boring". Movies, shopping, video arcades, eating out, bowling, yada yada yada. On the one hand, I understand it because they have to keep the kids occupied, but on the other, we cannot possibly match the level of fun activity. thank you's first Residential Treatment Center (RTC) was connected with a charitable group and was in an affluent area. OMG - you should have *seen* the Christmas presents he got. Karaoke machine, Play Station - it was nuts. One year he wanted an art set, so I got him one. A benefactor did too... ours paled in comparison. The allowance ... don't quote me, but I think part of this is mandated because she's getting (or will be getting) SSI. If you object to what she is buying, you should talk with therapist and staff. When thank you was getting into his Wicca/vampire junk, we made it very clear this was not acceptable and should not be allowed. Ditto his death/black metal music and his all black wardrobe. Pretty much, our home rules applied at all placements in terms of his purchases (except now, which is of course another story altogether - ugh!). Staff was pretty good about keeping him in line, but ... peers were not much help. I'd also talk with them about snack issues - they certainly can monitor if that's an issue. It's hard to see her getting rewards for not doing much - I totally understand. I think part of it too is building relationships with staff now, while she's still honeymooning. I never gave a second thought to 1:1 time - once I made the mental leap to understanding that these folks were essentially his surrogate parents (very very hard thing to deal with), I really had no choice but to place my whole trust in them. [/QUOTE]
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