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Residential Treatment Facility (RTF)..I am torn, I want my son home now..
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<blockquote data-quote="goldenguru" data-source="post: 231827" data-attributes="member: 1545"><p>Hi chaps - I'm joining in a little late - I don't usually post much here anymore because my kids are no longer teenagers.</p><p></p><p>My daughter was in a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for about 16 months. I will tell you that she told us alot of 'stories' when she first got there. Stories of staff abuse, etc. The bottom line is that she was trying to manipulate us to bring her home. Making the decision to keep her in the facility was the hardest thing I have ever been required to do. And I've had some tough stuff in life.</p><p></p><p>I'm not saying that your son wasn't telling you some truths. But, the fact that he ran and went back to drugging behaviors should be a red flag for you. A big red flag.</p><p></p><p>I personally would try and use professional services, including residential treatment or the juvenile detention facilities if possible. They are less likely to be 'manipulated' by your son.</p><p></p><p>Being home with your son 24/7, homeschooling him, and having that level of responsibility for a kid who may/may not desire to get well is really, really hard on you and on the entire dynamic situation of the family. We tried it - but that's another story for another day.</p><p></p><p>I know it is hard to relinquish control of parenting our children. But, there comes a time in some children's lives where average parents lack the knowledge, skills and energy to effectively deal with such huge problems. Do remember that the goal here is to get your son well - not to 'get rid of your son'. In the big picture, these months in a treatment facility will serve him well.</p><p></p><p>Bottom line: If I had to do it over again, I would. Was it hard? OMGosh. So, so, so very hard.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to your mother's heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="goldenguru, post: 231827, member: 1545"] Hi chaps - I'm joining in a little late - I don't usually post much here anymore because my kids are no longer teenagers. My daughter was in a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for about 16 months. I will tell you that she told us alot of 'stories' when she first got there. Stories of staff abuse, etc. The bottom line is that she was trying to manipulate us to bring her home. Making the decision to keep her in the facility was the hardest thing I have ever been required to do. And I've had some tough stuff in life. I'm not saying that your son wasn't telling you some truths. But, the fact that he ran and went back to drugging behaviors should be a red flag for you. A big red flag. I personally would try and use professional services, including residential treatment or the juvenile detention facilities if possible. They are less likely to be 'manipulated' by your son. Being home with your son 24/7, homeschooling him, and having that level of responsibility for a kid who may/may not desire to get well is really, really hard on you and on the entire dynamic situation of the family. We tried it - but that's another story for another day. I know it is hard to relinquish control of parenting our children. But, there comes a time in some children's lives where average parents lack the knowledge, skills and energy to effectively deal with such huge problems. Do remember that the goal here is to get your son well - not to 'get rid of your son'. In the big picture, these months in a treatment facility will serve him well. Bottom line: If I had to do it over again, I would. Was it hard? OMGosh. So, so, so very hard. Hugs to your mother's heart. [/QUOTE]
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