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<blockquote data-quote="dayatatime" data-source="post: 654685" data-attributes="member: 17805"><p>Very quickly, because I've got to run---</p><p></p><p>But it's important: I do not see making the decision based on your limits to be sacrificing your son. This is where all my alonon "training" kicks in. One thing is that the kids learn behaviorally-- so really defining what is and what is not acceptable in a home-- and having a clear boundary-- on this side of the line one lives at home-- on that side, nothing against you and we still love you-- but we love you so much that we are not going to make sure your needs get met, even if you aren't happy about it-- on this side of the line your needs are a higher level of care. We simply can't manage at home.</p><p></p><p>I think that the only problem with self-sacrifice is that it doesn't work. </p><p></p><p>I always think about my son as a future man who will be married to a future woman. I want to raise a son that will know how to behave in a home-- I do NOT want my son to learn that abusive behaviors are ok. And I do not want him to expect women to self-sacrifice, to curve their own self around him. I want him to be able to have a fully human relationship with another fully human person.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dayatatime, post: 654685, member: 17805"] Very quickly, because I've got to run--- But it's important: I do not see making the decision based on your limits to be sacrificing your son. This is where all my alonon "training" kicks in. One thing is that the kids learn behaviorally-- so really defining what is and what is not acceptable in a home-- and having a clear boundary-- on this side of the line one lives at home-- on that side, nothing against you and we still love you-- but we love you so much that we are not going to make sure your needs get met, even if you aren't happy about it-- on this side of the line your needs are a higher level of care. We simply can't manage at home. I think that the only problem with self-sacrifice is that it doesn't work. I always think about my son as a future man who will be married to a future woman. I want to raise a son that will know how to behave in a home-- I do NOT want my son to learn that abusive behaviors are ok. And I do not want him to expect women to self-sacrifice, to curve their own self around him. I want him to be able to have a fully human relationship with another fully human person. [/QUOTE]
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