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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 559938" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Hi and welcome. My son was adopted at age 2. He has many neuro-developmental disability issues but also has attachment issues. He was in the psychiatric hospital last year and acted up to stay there. He loved it and talked for months about wanting to go back. I.drove an hour to see him daily and he'd often kick and hit and verbally attack me when I showed up. I have belonged to groups and talked to Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) specialists. Sometimes Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids do much better without the pressure of the traditional attachment /family. The picture needs to change for them. </p><p></p><p>Just mho, You can let him know you'll always be there for him but do not take it personally that he is liking that structure and life there. As you stick with him he will see how committed you are. My son now says he hates the hospital and doesn't want to go. I imagine he will need to at some point again and though I don't want it, he could need a residential placement. </p><p>As things go on, (again jmho) you will be able to see if he at least could handle a group home situation or other supports but just look at options over time. No need to decide this early on. </p><p>It's heartbreaking to think our kids may never be able to fully feel that secure unconditional love of parents. So, we do all we can to at least help them to function in the world and to not hurt themselves or others and hope above all that they'll be happy and fulfilled.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 559938, member: 12886"] Hi and welcome. My son was adopted at age 2. He has many neuro-developmental disability issues but also has attachment issues. He was in the psychiatric hospital last year and acted up to stay there. He loved it and talked for months about wanting to go back. I.drove an hour to see him daily and he'd often kick and hit and verbally attack me when I showed up. I have belonged to groups and talked to Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) specialists. Sometimes Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids do much better without the pressure of the traditional attachment /family. The picture needs to change for them. Just mho, You can let him know you'll always be there for him but do not take it personally that he is liking that structure and life there. As you stick with him he will see how committed you are. My son now says he hates the hospital and doesn't want to go. I imagine he will need to at some point again and though I don't want it, he could need a residential placement. As things go on, (again jmho) you will be able to see if he at least could handle a group home situation or other supports but just look at options over time. No need to decide this early on. It's heartbreaking to think our kids may never be able to fully feel that secure unconditional love of parents. So, we do all we can to at least help them to function in the world and to not hurt themselves or others and hope above all that they'll be happy and fulfilled. [/QUOTE]
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