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<blockquote data-quote="Martie" data-source="post: 141922" data-attributes="member: 284"><p>Hi,</p><p></p><p>Here is what the research literature says:</p><p></p><p>Delaying school entrance may be helpful ESPECIALLY for boys who are "young in grade" or immature. If a child never "starts" he or she does not feel the stigma that can be and often is associated with retention.</p><p></p><p>As you can see from the responses, it CAN work to repeated KDG or first grade, but it also can backfire. My cousin who is four months older than I am, started school a year ahead of me and then repeated first grade. This was a life-time ago and she still bears the scars of being the "dumb" kid in the family, although her family did not view her that way, but everyone in school did.</p><p></p><p>Retention for older kids almost NEVER works: an IEP and continuing with same age peers is a much better solution. Occasionally someone will anecdotally report it turned out well to hold back an immature 5th grade boy for a year</p><p>before middle school. This may be true anecdotally but research does not show this for larger groups.</p><p></p><p>I did NOT hold my son despite his being very immature, and with a May birthday, young in grade, despite being urged to do so by the SD. I knew his problems were emotional and that he had no LDs, gross or fine motor problems. He had formed relationships in a public school junior KDG class that was going on to KDG together, and he would have felt like my cousin if he had be retained (this would not have been a delay because he was already "in a class." Further, he "stuck out" plenty without what would have felt like a retention to him added in. Also, I knew where he was academically, so even delaying was not a good idea from my point of view. The public school did not know what to do with a kid in KDG who could do long division, so he didn't need to be older, he needed to mature emotionally, and he did eventually but it took about 10 years. Some people fear ED more than other problems, but it is the one disability from which complete recovery is possible. Ex-difficult child will be 21 next month and he graduated from h.s. at 18. I am really glad he wasn't 19. All this is JUST my opinion. I would go with your gut. If you feel that a RETENTION is likely in KDG or first grade, you are far better off with delaying entrance in my opinion.</p><p></p><p>Martie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Martie, post: 141922, member: 284"] Hi, Here is what the research literature says: Delaying school entrance may be helpful ESPECIALLY for boys who are "young in grade" or immature. If a child never "starts" he or she does not feel the stigma that can be and often is associated with retention. As you can see from the responses, it CAN work to repeated KDG or first grade, but it also can backfire. My cousin who is four months older than I am, started school a year ahead of me and then repeated first grade. This was a life-time ago and she still bears the scars of being the "dumb" kid in the family, although her family did not view her that way, but everyone in school did. Retention for older kids almost NEVER works: an IEP and continuing with same age peers is a much better solution. Occasionally someone will anecdotally report it turned out well to hold back an immature 5th grade boy for a year before middle school. This may be true anecdotally but research does not show this for larger groups. I did NOT hold my son despite his being very immature, and with a May birthday, young in grade, despite being urged to do so by the SD. I knew his problems were emotional and that he had no LDs, gross or fine motor problems. He had formed relationships in a public school junior KDG class that was going on to KDG together, and he would have felt like my cousin if he had be retained (this would not have been a delay because he was already "in a class." Further, he "stuck out" plenty without what would have felt like a retention to him added in. Also, I knew where he was academically, so even delaying was not a good idea from my point of view. The public school did not know what to do with a kid in KDG who could do long division, so he didn't need to be older, he needed to mature emotionally, and he did eventually but it took about 10 years. Some people fear ED more than other problems, but it is the one disability from which complete recovery is possible. Ex-difficult child will be 21 next month and he graduated from h.s. at 18. I am really glad he wasn't 19. All this is JUST my opinion. I would go with your gut. If you feel that a RETENTION is likely in KDG or first grade, you are far better off with delaying entrance in my opinion. Martie [/QUOTE]
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