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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 643908" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Wow, RE. I love that, all of it, and will implement it into my own life. I was probably older than you are when I started using toxic people as teachers, but I did that as well. I just didn't think about it as an opportunity to learn, which would have wiped the anger away and made me think that perhaps it was supposed to happen in order for me to grow. I do believe that everything that happens is meant to happen and that it's up to us to figure out why.</p><p></p><p>These days, and for many years, I read a lot, like you do, and do meditation to teach me how to feel thoughts with detachment. Not so easy for me, but I try. Radical acceptance is sometimes very hard, but it also works! I am always saying "It is what it is" lol. My daughter even said, "What does that mean anyway? You're always saying it."</p><p></p><p>Those who hurt me used to be such a huge part of my life, even if I hadn't seen them for a long time. Now they have sort of melded into a rather insignificant part of my mind and I find I can detach from my memories of them. To me, the best revenge is the life I'm living now...probably my abusers did not want my life to turn out this serene. On the other hand, it is possible they have let go of ME too and don't care anymore. I hope so. I don't like anyone to be in pain.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 643908, member: 1550"] Wow, RE. I love that, all of it, and will implement it into my own life. I was probably older than you are when I started using toxic people as teachers, but I did that as well. I just didn't think about it as an opportunity to learn, which would have wiped the anger away and made me think that perhaps it was supposed to happen in order for me to grow. I do believe that everything that happens is meant to happen and that it's up to us to figure out why. These days, and for many years, I read a lot, like you do, and do meditation to teach me how to feel thoughts with detachment. Not so easy for me, but I try. Radical acceptance is sometimes very hard, but it also works! I am always saying "It is what it is" lol. My daughter even said, "What does that mean anyway? You're always saying it." Those who hurt me used to be such a huge part of my life, even if I hadn't seen them for a long time. Now they have sort of melded into a rather insignificant part of my mind and I find I can detach from my memories of them. To me, the best revenge is the life I'm living now...probably my abusers did not want my life to turn out this serene. On the other hand, it is possible they have let go of ME too and don't care anymore. I hope so. I don't like anyone to be in pain. [/QUOTE]
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