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Revisiting my thoughts on Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
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<blockquote data-quote="HopeRemains" data-source="post: 569062" data-attributes="member: 14139"><p>Thank you, buddy. Unfortunately, I don't see husband going the extra mile for difficult child. I even believe that it is possible that he would drop all help sometime in the future if it is inconvenient for husband to get to. I also don't see husband ever even considering any sort of residential help. But maybe I am wrong... Maybe without me there shielding him from the worst of it he will figure it out. I have stressed to husband many times that this is serious, but he never agrees, ever. I think he has an issue with the way people percieve him and needs to always appear to be "perfect". When I told him we would be getting seperate housing, he never mentioned anything about taking easy child, he mentioned only how I am the one he would miss. What I heard was "Who will I ever get to do the things you do for me to make my life easier on such short notice?". I have also talked to husband about having "dates", just difficult child and I, in public after we've seperated. So that if there is anything there that I still can help, it might not be lost in transit. Having one more person in and out of his life may be devestating to him. (I tend to think that difficult child might just go on living his life and not mention us much. I'm not sure if that is just negative thinking or if I just know him very well. But he may be happy that I *the mean disciplinarian* am gone so he can continue unchecked at all.) =( I'm feeling very tired right now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HopeRemains, post: 569062, member: 14139"] Thank you, buddy. Unfortunately, I don't see husband going the extra mile for difficult child. I even believe that it is possible that he would drop all help sometime in the future if it is inconvenient for husband to get to. I also don't see husband ever even considering any sort of residential help. But maybe I am wrong... Maybe without me there shielding him from the worst of it he will figure it out. I have stressed to husband many times that this is serious, but he never agrees, ever. I think he has an issue with the way people percieve him and needs to always appear to be "perfect". When I told him we would be getting seperate housing, he never mentioned anything about taking easy child, he mentioned only how I am the one he would miss. What I heard was "Who will I ever get to do the things you do for me to make my life easier on such short notice?". I have also talked to husband about having "dates", just difficult child and I, in public after we've seperated. So that if there is anything there that I still can help, it might not be lost in transit. Having one more person in and out of his life may be devestating to him. (I tend to think that difficult child might just go on living his life and not mention us much. I'm not sure if that is just negative thinking or if I just know him very well. But he may be happy that I *the mean disciplinarian* am gone so he can continue unchecked at all.) =( I'm feeling very tired right now. [/QUOTE]
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