Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Rigid routines? Or not?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 261877" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Shari, this is more complex than it seems because it flows on to other areas of his life.</p><p></p><p>Inorder to function well in his morning routine, he clearly doens't need any help. He's doing fine. So for that reason, you don't need to make a chart.</p><p></p><p>But you might benefit from such a chart, in other areas.</p><p></p><p>The bumps in the road - having a chart may make it MORE difficult to cope, unless you build it in somehow. And there are ways, I'll get to that in a sec.</p><p></p><p>How is he reading? Is he ahead of his peers, or behind, or just average? Is reading something he craves, or something he avoids? Either way, there is a different approach which works brilliantly for spectrum kids BECAUSE IT SETS UP A PATTERN OF COPING that you can capitalise on in other areas.</p><p></p><p>WHat I'm talking about - social story. Only I begin differently. </p><p></p><p>I did this for difficult child 3, because it helped him adapt to different routines and potential change - I followed him around with a camera, we took posed photos of him doing his every day routines, and then I put it all together in a book for him. I printed out the text, printed the photos and put it together in a photo album for him (I picked up a cheap album at the op-shop). Photo albums are easy for little kids because the pages turn easily. I would write stories for my kids and draw pictures, putting it into the photo album.</p><p></p><p>YOu then read the story to him. It's a story about him, it has his name in it and it has his picture in it. It also has him doing things he recognises and routines he recognises.</p><p></p><p>Now comes the beautiful bit - because you have done this with something he recognises, you cna use it to prepare him for a known upcoming change.</p><p></p><p>"On Wednesday next week, Johnny is going to the dentist. A dentist is a person who looks after your teeth to make sure they are growing healthy, white and strong and not getting holes. If a dentist finds a hole he can fix it before it gets so big that it hurts. The dentist will show Johnny to a big chair that can go up and down. Mummy will be able to stay in the room and the dentist will ask Johnny what sort of music he lies to listen to. There are pretty pictures on the wall and a TV in the corner that can show cartoons."</p><p></p><p>and so on. Or</p><p></p><p>"On Saturday morning, our family is going on holiday. We have to pack our luggage so it is ready by Friday night, so Daddy can pack it in the car. We need to go to bed early on Friday night because we have to wake up early on Saturday. We will even be out of bed before the sun comes up! We need to leave early, but if we're all ready in time we will be able to watch the sunrise as we drive along! It will be a lovely adventure, the whole family together."</p><p></p><p>YOu see? If you need to for a changed routine, you again desscribe the familiar routine but list what will be different. For example, a child going in to hospital for a small operation or a test, may be nil by mouth. So the routine would include, "At tis point Johnny normally easts breakfast, but not today because the doctor needs his tummy to be empty, or the tests won't work properly. But it will be okay because after it's all done the doctor has asked for a special meal for Johnny, so he won't be hungry for too long."</p><p></p><p>So does your child need his morning routine written down, in order for him to complete that routine? Nope. But would it help in other areas. Yep.</p><p></p><p>And for difficult child 3 - it really improved his reading, because it helped him with the 'flow" of stories. He was reading lists of words, mostly nouns and some verbs, but had little understanding of sentences because he wasn't speaking in sentences then either. He used the flow of a story with its sentence structure, to learn to read them and then to speak them.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 3's first such story was purely personal information, the stuff he needed to be able to repeat about himself. "My name is... I am a boy. I live at ... Our phone number is... and my mother's mobile phone number is... I like to climb trees and play piano. I love computers. I have two sisters and a brother. I like to swim." and so on. I had photos of him up a tree, him at the piano, outside our house, etc.</p><p></p><p>The end result of that first one - if he got lost (as happened occasionally) he was able to repeat the text of this 'book' and they could use it to find out who he was and how we could be contacted. He was still mostly non-verbal, but he could repeat chunks of text like a parrot. But the photos - they helped him understand exactly what the text was meaning. From there, came language and comprehension.</p><p></p><p>Have fun with this.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 261877, member: 1991"] Shari, this is more complex than it seems because it flows on to other areas of his life. Inorder to function well in his morning routine, he clearly doens't need any help. He's doing fine. So for that reason, you don't need to make a chart. But you might benefit from such a chart, in other areas. The bumps in the road - having a chart may make it MORE difficult to cope, unless you build it in somehow. And there are ways, I'll get to that in a sec. How is he reading? Is he ahead of his peers, or behind, or just average? Is reading something he craves, or something he avoids? Either way, there is a different approach which works brilliantly for spectrum kids BECAUSE IT SETS UP A PATTERN OF COPING that you can capitalise on in other areas. WHat I'm talking about - social story. Only I begin differently. I did this for difficult child 3, because it helped him adapt to different routines and potential change - I followed him around with a camera, we took posed photos of him doing his every day routines, and then I put it all together in a book for him. I printed out the text, printed the photos and put it together in a photo album for him (I picked up a cheap album at the op-shop). Photo albums are easy for little kids because the pages turn easily. I would write stories for my kids and draw pictures, putting it into the photo album. YOu then read the story to him. It's a story about him, it has his name in it and it has his picture in it. It also has him doing things he recognises and routines he recognises. Now comes the beautiful bit - because you have done this with something he recognises, you cna use it to prepare him for a known upcoming change. "On Wednesday next week, Johnny is going to the dentist. A dentist is a person who looks after your teeth to make sure they are growing healthy, white and strong and not getting holes. If a dentist finds a hole he can fix it before it gets so big that it hurts. The dentist will show Johnny to a big chair that can go up and down. Mummy will be able to stay in the room and the dentist will ask Johnny what sort of music he lies to listen to. There are pretty pictures on the wall and a TV in the corner that can show cartoons." and so on. Or "On Saturday morning, our family is going on holiday. We have to pack our luggage so it is ready by Friday night, so Daddy can pack it in the car. We need to go to bed early on Friday night because we have to wake up early on Saturday. We will even be out of bed before the sun comes up! We need to leave early, but if we're all ready in time we will be able to watch the sunrise as we drive along! It will be a lovely adventure, the whole family together." YOu see? If you need to for a changed routine, you again desscribe the familiar routine but list what will be different. For example, a child going in to hospital for a small operation or a test, may be nil by mouth. So the routine would include, "At tis point Johnny normally easts breakfast, but not today because the doctor needs his tummy to be empty, or the tests won't work properly. But it will be okay because after it's all done the doctor has asked for a special meal for Johnny, so he won't be hungry for too long." So does your child need his morning routine written down, in order for him to complete that routine? Nope. But would it help in other areas. Yep. And for difficult child 3 - it really improved his reading, because it helped him with the 'flow" of stories. He was reading lists of words, mostly nouns and some verbs, but had little understanding of sentences because he wasn't speaking in sentences then either. He used the flow of a story with its sentence structure, to learn to read them and then to speak them. difficult child 3's first such story was purely personal information, the stuff he needed to be able to repeat about himself. "My name is... I am a boy. I live at ... Our phone number is... and my mother's mobile phone number is... I like to climb trees and play piano. I love computers. I have two sisters and a brother. I like to swim." and so on. I had photos of him up a tree, him at the piano, outside our house, etc. The end result of that first one - if he got lost (as happened occasionally) he was able to repeat the text of this 'book' and they could use it to find out who he was and how we could be contacted. He was still mostly non-verbal, but he could repeat chunks of text like a parrot. But the photos - they helped him understand exactly what the text was meaning. From there, came language and comprehension. Have fun with this. Marg [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Rigid routines? Or not?
Top