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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 540132" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>I'm still scared of the medications. Scared of the side effects (scared of losing the boon which is that J has always gone to sleep like a light, totally tired out, early in the evening and he already eats like a bird, as it is...) and of J losing his zest, pep and essential liveliness of spirit. I am sure those fears are understandable and that everyone must feel like that to start with.</p><p>At the same time, what you said pepperidge, about adults' negative view being internalised - this is happening. J does see himself as naughty and bad. Obviously I try to counter that with lots of affection and positive statements, but I too am adding to the negative image by my irritated comments when he does silly or annoying things or because of the hyperactivity sometimes... I know I shouldn't but it's almost stronger than me, at times. </p><p>I do see with his relationships with his peers that it is not so much that he is lacking in social skills per se - he seems quite able to take the other person's perspective into account or not say hurtful things (frankly, so-called typical kids often blurt out 'things you should not say' and I certainly don't think J is worse than them in that regard), he seems to want to interact and play with others in a way that is quite "normal". But... what affects his relationship with others is the hyperactivity and impulsivity. Again. Interrupting, not behaving according to the social codes, rushing in too soon into things, being too brusque with his gestures so that in play he quite often hurts other boys.... Etc. If there were a medication that helped him not do these things but keep his basic personality and qualities, well, I think I would have to be duty bound to try it. But first he has to get a diagnosis!! I am due to see the psychiatrist at the beginning of July and will talk about some of all this with her - or attempt to , for she is a terrible listener...</p><p>Interestingly, there is a message on the French forum today about how a child's personality has changed on medications, gone from being lively and sociable to withdrawn and sad... this is the fear. But you can only experiment to see, I suppose.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 540132, member: 11227"] I'm still scared of the medications. Scared of the side effects (scared of losing the boon which is that J has always gone to sleep like a light, totally tired out, early in the evening and he already eats like a bird, as it is...) and of J losing his zest, pep and essential liveliness of spirit. I am sure those fears are understandable and that everyone must feel like that to start with. At the same time, what you said pepperidge, about adults' negative view being internalised - this is happening. J does see himself as naughty and bad. Obviously I try to counter that with lots of affection and positive statements, but I too am adding to the negative image by my irritated comments when he does silly or annoying things or because of the hyperactivity sometimes... I know I shouldn't but it's almost stronger than me, at times. I do see with his relationships with his peers that it is not so much that he is lacking in social skills per se - he seems quite able to take the other person's perspective into account or not say hurtful things (frankly, so-called typical kids often blurt out 'things you should not say' and I certainly don't think J is worse than them in that regard), he seems to want to interact and play with others in a way that is quite "normal". But... what affects his relationship with others is the hyperactivity and impulsivity. Again. Interrupting, not behaving according to the social codes, rushing in too soon into things, being too brusque with his gestures so that in play he quite often hurts other boys.... Etc. If there were a medication that helped him not do these things but keep his basic personality and qualities, well, I think I would have to be duty bound to try it. But first he has to get a diagnosis!! I am due to see the psychiatrist at the beginning of July and will talk about some of all this with her - or attempt to , for she is a terrible listener... Interestingly, there is a message on the French forum today about how a child's personality has changed on medications, gone from being lively and sociable to withdrawn and sad... this is the fear. But you can only experiment to see, I suppose. [/QUOTE]
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