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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 525895" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I am so moved by what you all are saying. I cannot enter into the conversation on adoption, however, I did remember listening to a radio talk show about 10 years ago which really shocked me. The host asked the audience this question, "knowing what you now know about raising kids, if you could go back, would you do it again?" I thought to myself, '<em>well everyone is going to say, OF COURSE!'</em> I wouldn't say that because as the mother of a difficult child, I would <u>not </u>do it. To my utter shock, every single person who called in said the exact same thing, "I love my child(ren)" then would go on with various statements about how much they do love their kids, but every one of them said, "NO, I would <strong>not </strong>do it knowing what I know." After that, I started asking parents the same question, (if it felt ok and was appropriate to ask) and except for a few, the absolute majority said no. I still have trouble believing it! I always thought I was completely alone in that feeling. And many if not most of the folks I asked had kids who were easy child's. I don't know really how much that truly reflects what most parents think,and I'm not suggesting it IS how most parents feel, however, I just thought it odd and quite surprising that so many responded that way. It makes me think that if parents of easy child's are answering that question with a 'NO" then that sure leaves those of us on this board in an <em>unenviable</em> place!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 525895, member: 13542"] I am so moved by what you all are saying. I cannot enter into the conversation on adoption, however, I did remember listening to a radio talk show about 10 years ago which really shocked me. The host asked the audience this question, "knowing what you now know about raising kids, if you could go back, would you do it again?" I thought to myself, '[I]well everyone is going to say, OF COURSE!'[/I] I wouldn't say that because as the mother of a difficult child, I would [U]not [/U]do it. To my utter shock, every single person who called in said the exact same thing, "I love my child(ren)" then would go on with various statements about how much they do love their kids, but every one of them said, "NO, I would [B]not [/B]do it knowing what I know." After that, I started asking parents the same question, (if it felt ok and was appropriate to ask) and except for a few, the absolute majority said no. I still have trouble believing it! I always thought I was completely alone in that feeling. And many if not most of the folks I asked had kids who were easy child's. I don't know really how much that truly reflects what most parents think,and I'm not suggesting it IS how most parents feel, however, I just thought it odd and quite surprising that so many responded that way. It makes me think that if parents of easy child's are answering that question with a 'NO" then that sure leaves those of us on this board in an [I]unenviable[/I] place! [/QUOTE]
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