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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 525903" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>difficult child and I had this conversation tonight. I was talking to her about some of the stories from the board and she asked if I thought adoptive parents would have an easier time detaching from a substance abusing child than a biological parent.</p><p></p><p>I told her no, not at all. I know that every adoptive parent on this board loves their child unconditionally and feels the very same love as if they had given birth to that child.</p><p></p><p>However, I did tell her that adoptive parents probably don't have the same guilt that biological parents have. As others have already said better than I could, I live with the knowledge that my difficult child's problems are genetic and therefore came from husband and me.</p><p></p><p>However, even knowing that my husband's brother was an alcoholic and bipolar, it never occurred to me that my child could have those problems. And yet, that is exactly how she turned out. There are also alcoholics on my side of the family so I can't put all the blame on husband's side of the family.</p><p></p><p>In the end, though, all of us love our children and feel the same pain as we watch them struggle with mental illness and/or substance abuse.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 525903, member: 1967"] difficult child and I had this conversation tonight. I was talking to her about some of the stories from the board and she asked if I thought adoptive parents would have an easier time detaching from a substance abusing child than a biological parent. I told her no, not at all. I know that every adoptive parent on this board loves their child unconditionally and feels the very same love as if they had given birth to that child. However, I did tell her that adoptive parents probably don't have the same guilt that biological parents have. As others have already said better than I could, I live with the knowledge that my difficult child's problems are genetic and therefore came from husband and me. However, even knowing that my husband's brother was an alcoholic and bipolar, it never occurred to me that my child could have those problems. And yet, that is exactly how she turned out. There are also alcoholics on my side of the family so I can't put all the blame on husband's side of the family. In the end, though, all of us love our children and feel the same pain as we watch them struggle with mental illness and/or substance abuse. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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