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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 427572"><p>This stuff is hard. I am WELL acquainted with the notion that it is easier to just do certain things yourself than put up with a raging difficult child. But with the exception of very rare/extreme situations...try your best not to go "there." Get family support and proceed with logical consequences. AND shake out your emotions. Be like a cop who gives out a ticket. He or she does not get all upset about it. He doesn't say "This ticks me off that this woman has the audacity to speed in my area." "Omg! Now, she is thowing a hissy fit and crying. It's just easier for me to walk away than give this old broad a ticket." NOPE. He keeps a neutral face, writes the ticket, hands her the ticket, gets in his car and walks away. You can do the same. </p><p>Stick to your guns. And if your difficult child digs her heels, then dole out a logical and appropriate consequence. Do not ground her for a year. But try to make the punishment fit and be associated with the "crime." For example, if she blows off cleaning her dishes for so long, that you feel YOU have to do them, then you can give her a couple of extra household cleaning duties and she can be grounded until they are done. Be creative...but again, have the "punishment" fit the "crime." </p><p>Another thought....<u>re-negotiate</u> this chore to a certain degree.</p><p>Perhaps she can only wash her own place setting (not negotiable), but then help you with something else in the house. You might ask her what she would like to do to help the family instead of washing dishes. If she makes the decsion, maybe she will more consistent about getting it done in the future.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 427572"] This stuff is hard. I am WELL acquainted with the notion that it is easier to just do certain things yourself than put up with a raging difficult child. But with the exception of very rare/extreme situations...try your best not to go "there." Get family support and proceed with logical consequences. AND shake out your emotions. Be like a cop who gives out a ticket. He or she does not get all upset about it. He doesn't say "This ticks me off that this woman has the audacity to speed in my area." "Omg! Now, she is thowing a hissy fit and crying. It's just easier for me to walk away than give this old broad a ticket." NOPE. He keeps a neutral face, writes the ticket, hands her the ticket, gets in his car and walks away. You can do the same. Stick to your guns. And if your difficult child digs her heels, then dole out a logical and appropriate consequence. Do not ground her for a year. But try to make the punishment fit and be associated with the "crime." For example, if she blows off cleaning her dishes for so long, that you feel YOU have to do them, then you can give her a couple of extra household cleaning duties and she can be grounded until they are done. Be creative...but again, have the "punishment" fit the "crime." Another thought....[U]re-negotiate[/U] this chore to a certain degree. Perhaps she can only wash her own place setting (not negotiable), but then help you with something else in the house. You might ask her what she would like to do to help the family instead of washing dishes. If she makes the decsion, maybe she will more consistent about getting it done in the future. [/QUOTE]
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