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Rough night... and rough morning...
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<blockquote data-quote="ksm" data-source="post: 478111" data-attributes="member: 12511"><p>I had the appointment with the therapist - and she wants husband and I to try to be more empathetic and less logical, or trying to "fix problems". I have been learning some of those phrases and things at the NAMI meetings, but it is hard when you want to tell them the "right answer" not basically agree with what they are saying. It is like the "landing the plane on the same runway that they took off on" theory I had mentioned in another post.</p><p></p><p>She did say that things will probably get worse before they get better. That we can't fix difficult child - she is going to have to want to do that. She said it is like difficult child is trying to hand us all her anger... and we are suppose to acknowledge the anger... but not take it off her hands. That she would have to want to figure out how to get rid of the anger herself. If we keep taking the anger, she just fills back up with it. She does feel the anger stems from losing her parents because of their addiction probblems. I wish we could have dealt with this at age 7 or 8 instead of 13. Just makes everything so much harder. </p><p></p><p>Thanks for letting me unload earlier. KSM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ksm, post: 478111, member: 12511"] I had the appointment with the therapist - and she wants husband and I to try to be more empathetic and less logical, or trying to "fix problems". I have been learning some of those phrases and things at the NAMI meetings, but it is hard when you want to tell them the "right answer" not basically agree with what they are saying. It is like the "landing the plane on the same runway that they took off on" theory I had mentioned in another post. She did say that things will probably get worse before they get better. That we can't fix difficult child - she is going to have to want to do that. She said it is like difficult child is trying to hand us all her anger... and we are suppose to acknowledge the anger... but not take it off her hands. That she would have to want to figure out how to get rid of the anger herself. If we keep taking the anger, she just fills back up with it. She does feel the anger stems from losing her parents because of their addiction probblems. I wish we could have dealt with this at age 7 or 8 instead of 13. Just makes everything so much harder. Thanks for letting me unload earlier. KSM [/QUOTE]
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