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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 545418" data-attributes="member: 805"><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px">With all due respect, I think you are not giving him the ability to make choices on how much sleep he needs, etc. When he leaves home at the end of August to go away to school, you are not going to be there to make sure he is home at a particular time or wakes up in time to get to his first class. In my opinion, especially given that your son does not carry a miriad of comorbid disorders with his adhd, he should be trusted to make some of these decisions for himself while still living at home. That way you and dad are there to discuss when something is not working for him or guide him gentely through the steps. If he never does on his own, he never learns and mistakes can often be more serious.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px">When teaching him to ride a bike with training wheels, at some point you let go to see if he could make it on his own. He might have fallen and wobbled a bit, but eventually he got it. It's kinda the same - there comes a point when you have to trust that they can take it from here.</span></span><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"> He is a young man of 18 who needs to begin to practise the skills he will need when he's on his own.</span><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px">For me, learning to trust my children's judgement and having them prove their trustworthiness meant letting go, biting my tongue, crossing my fingers, and sometimes saying a prayer or two. For me, it begain years before independence would be a reality. They have to learn to trust themselves as well. Both my difficult child and easy child have adhd. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px">I feel you should give him some rope and see what he does with it. I believe a 10 pm curfew for a young man who has graduated high school and is on his way to college, regardless of the time he needs to get up, is too early.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px">Just my 2 cents...</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'comic sans ms'"><span style="font-size: 12px">Sharon</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 545418, member: 805"] [FONT=comic sans ms][SIZE=3]With all due respect, I think you are not giving him the ability to make choices on how much sleep he needs, etc. When he leaves home at the end of August to go away to school, you are not going to be there to make sure he is home at a particular time or wakes up in time to get to his first class. In my opinion, especially given that your son does not carry a miriad of comorbid disorders with his adhd, he should be trusted to make some of these decisions for himself while still living at home. That way you and dad are there to discuss when something is not working for him or guide him gentely through the steps. If he never does on his own, he never learns and mistakes can often be more serious. When teaching him to ride a bike with training wheels, at some point you let go to see if he could make it on his own. He might have fallen and wobbled a bit, but eventually he got it. It's kinda the same - there comes a point when you have to trust that they can take it from here.[/SIZE][/FONT][FONT=comic sans ms] He is a young man of 18 who needs to begin to practise the skills he will need when he's on his own.[/FONT][FONT=comic sans ms][SIZE=3] For me, learning to trust my children's judgement and having them prove their trustworthiness meant letting go, biting my tongue, crossing my fingers, and sometimes saying a prayer or two. For me, it begain years before independence would be a reality. They have to learn to trust themselves as well. Both my difficult child and easy child have adhd. I feel you should give him some rope and see what he does with it. I believe a 10 pm curfew for a young man who has graduated high school and is on his way to college, regardless of the time he needs to get up, is too early. Just my 2 cents... Sharon[/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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