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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 519906" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>I think there are several things here. First is that human nature really is human nature, and overrides culture at least to some extent. This particular teacher is known for being ferocious, severe and not very open minded and there are quite a few people in the village who refuse to send their children to the village school because of her. I find her really uphill work because she is REALLY not open to hearing or understanding that J has special needs, in a sense - she just thinks I am a neurotic worrier and that the basic problem is that I am not authoritative enough and also that I am a single parent. Of course she is not the only one to think that... And that is what I feel the heart of the problem is. The fact that J is hyperactive and that almost NO ONE has any understanding of that. There are cultural differences between me and the villagers - don't know how big they are. I speak fluent French, know France well, have good (if superficial) relationships with everyone I interact with here: I think if I had a neurotypical child, the issue of cultural difference would simply not be an issue... The problem is that the stuff like J's tantrums, his difficultness, his great spiritedness, just looks to everybody like a badly brought up child who needs the strong influence of a father. And because there is very little popular knowledge about things like ADHD, if I mention it, people just look very wary and sceptical. </p><p>It really is quite difficult being treated like I am ridiculous by the teacher because I say that J has ADHD. But if and when I have a concrete diagnosis from a psychiatrist, she will have to listen to it and take it seriously. Just to be fair to the teacher, though, she is a really devoted woman in terms of actual teaching and has really high standards for the children which actually I think is probably good for J. She spends a lot of time with him making sure that he is at the same level as the others. He is in any case disadvantaged being born in December and the youngest in the class (classes are by year of birth here).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 519906, member: 11227"] I think there are several things here. First is that human nature really is human nature, and overrides culture at least to some extent. This particular teacher is known for being ferocious, severe and not very open minded and there are quite a few people in the village who refuse to send their children to the village school because of her. I find her really uphill work because she is REALLY not open to hearing or understanding that J has special needs, in a sense - she just thinks I am a neurotic worrier and that the basic problem is that I am not authoritative enough and also that I am a single parent. Of course she is not the only one to think that... And that is what I feel the heart of the problem is. The fact that J is hyperactive and that almost NO ONE has any understanding of that. There are cultural differences between me and the villagers - don't know how big they are. I speak fluent French, know France well, have good (if superficial) relationships with everyone I interact with here: I think if I had a neurotypical child, the issue of cultural difference would simply not be an issue... The problem is that the stuff like J's tantrums, his difficultness, his great spiritedness, just looks to everybody like a badly brought up child who needs the strong influence of a father. And because there is very little popular knowledge about things like ADHD, if I mention it, people just look very wary and sceptical. It really is quite difficult being treated like I am ridiculous by the teacher because I say that J has ADHD. But if and when I have a concrete diagnosis from a psychiatrist, she will have to listen to it and take it seriously. Just to be fair to the teacher, though, she is a really devoted woman in terms of actual teaching and has really high standards for the children which actually I think is probably good for J. She spends a lot of time with him making sure that he is at the same level as the others. He is in any case disadvantaged being born in December and the youngest in the class (classes are by year of birth here). [/QUOTE]
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