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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 467326" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Good insight. Kids perceive things in their own special way. I am so sorry about your dad passing. you did nothing wrong, but she probably did worry about not only the death thing, but you. Kids will always turn it on themselves, no matter what you tell them. The world (and it is natural for them to think so at a young age) revolves around them. That means they should get everything they want and unfortunately that everything that happens has something to do with them. </p><p></p><p>Just in case, I am sure you have thought this already, but I plan for "bonding"time with my son and it is not negotiable...(unless he is out of control at the time...then we will rearrange) But for THAT special time-- I never threaten to use it as a consequence because then he would have nothing to look forward to. There are other priveleges he can earn/not earn. But those special times are just a given part of the routine like brushing teeth. </p><p></p><p>Sounds like it was a huge change and she didn't have such issues before so hopefully it is not a serious, life long issue, providing you guys attend to it, which you obviously are. And in my humble opinion, I'd stilll go ahead with all of the evaluations, because she may be more mildly affected by something and then when a life stressor comes along, she responds in a more serious way than other kids will. (a lower threshold for stress) Just in case. But I might not go to medication options etc. until the life situations settle a little more unless the doctors find something positively wrong. I would work behaviorally with her a little longer. Give yourselves a chance to settle after all the big changes. Take care of yourself, you are blessed to have eachother.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 467326, member: 12886"] Good insight. Kids perceive things in their own special way. I am so sorry about your dad passing. you did nothing wrong, but she probably did worry about not only the death thing, but you. Kids will always turn it on themselves, no matter what you tell them. The world (and it is natural for them to think so at a young age) revolves around them. That means they should get everything they want and unfortunately that everything that happens has something to do with them. Just in case, I am sure you have thought this already, but I plan for "bonding"time with my son and it is not negotiable...(unless he is out of control at the time...then we will rearrange) But for THAT special time-- I never threaten to use it as a consequence because then he would have nothing to look forward to. There are other priveleges he can earn/not earn. But those special times are just a given part of the routine like brushing teeth. Sounds like it was a huge change and she didn't have such issues before so hopefully it is not a serious, life long issue, providing you guys attend to it, which you obviously are. And in my humble opinion, I'd stilll go ahead with all of the evaluations, because she may be more mildly affected by something and then when a life stressor comes along, she responds in a more serious way than other kids will. (a lower threshold for stress) Just in case. But I might not go to medication options etc. until the life situations settle a little more unless the doctors find something positively wrong. I would work behaviorally with her a little longer. Give yourselves a chance to settle after all the big changes. Take care of yourself, you are blessed to have eachother. [/QUOTE]
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