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Running out of ideas for punishments that Work for 5 year old
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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 468018" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Punishment does not mean you are beating them. It means you are teaching them that that their behavior has a consequence. That is how life works. I dont know any adult in the world who doesnt live with the idea of some form of punishment hanging over their heads. Just take the simple fact of driving as an example. We have speed limits. If you drive over the speed limit you take the chance that you run the risk of getting pulled over and getting a ticket. Behavior equals punishment. If you write a check with no money in the bank, you know you will incur bad check fees. Behavior equals consequences. </p><p></p><p>I think it is better to teach kids young that what they do will result in a consequence so that they arent shocked when they get into the real world. No one in real life is going to coddle them to make their self esteem feel better and find out why they were speeding. The cops really dont care. You were speeding, thats all they will listen to. </p><p></p><p>Now of course with a child that is so severely disabled as Buddy's there are always exceptions to the theories. I dont think he will be living on his own. My ideas are for kids we are raising to be self sufficient adults. And of course you want to model good behavior and praise that. I dont think you throw out all the other stuff as well and just punish the kid only. Its not like you just walk around and just catch them to punish them but when they do something wrong, you have to let them know its wrong. The only time ignoring it works is if they are on the time out spot and are trying to goad you into a confrontation from that spot. Then you ignore them until they can be quiet on the spot so they can do the time out for however minutes they are old.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 468018, member: 1514"] Punishment does not mean you are beating them. It means you are teaching them that that their behavior has a consequence. That is how life works. I dont know any adult in the world who doesnt live with the idea of some form of punishment hanging over their heads. Just take the simple fact of driving as an example. We have speed limits. If you drive over the speed limit you take the chance that you run the risk of getting pulled over and getting a ticket. Behavior equals punishment. If you write a check with no money in the bank, you know you will incur bad check fees. Behavior equals consequences. I think it is better to teach kids young that what they do will result in a consequence so that they arent shocked when they get into the real world. No one in real life is going to coddle them to make their self esteem feel better and find out why they were speeding. The cops really dont care. You were speeding, thats all they will listen to. Now of course with a child that is so severely disabled as Buddy's there are always exceptions to the theories. I dont think he will be living on his own. My ideas are for kids we are raising to be self sufficient adults. And of course you want to model good behavior and praise that. I dont think you throw out all the other stuff as well and just punish the kid only. Its not like you just walk around and just catch them to punish them but when they do something wrong, you have to let them know its wrong. The only time ignoring it works is if they are on the time out spot and are trying to goad you into a confrontation from that spot. Then you ignore them until they can be quiet on the spot so they can do the time out for however minutes they are old. [/QUOTE]
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