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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 621866" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>It does, Recovering. But how healing for your daughter, to know you are there, loving her enough to hear her without turning away. It may be too soon for this, but even when it happened, I wondered at the timing. Your daughter is safe where she is, Recovering. Each of you have grown and changed so much that the dynamic between you is unrecognizable...and this happens, something so intimately connected to the heart of the original loss. Even the ex-roommate's cruelty is a kind of replay of the shock, of the unfixable horror, of your daughter's, and your family's, original loss.</p><p></p><p>Miracles do happen, Recovering. They are not always wondrous or happy things. They are change events, times we look back on with wonder.</p><p></p><p>I am sending you my warmth and strength and courage, Recovering. I think of you and of your daughter and granddaughter so many times each day and night.</p><p></p><p>To me, it seems that this is the event you have prepared for, Recovering. There are the three generations. Here is the coldness, the callousness, the unchangeable nature, of the unexpected death.</p><p></p><p>But you are different; stronger, happier, more certain of what love means and of where it can take us all.</p><p></p><p>What you do naturally will be the right thing, Recovering. I don't know whether this will become the healing we hope for. But I do know that you will do your part, beautifully, gracefully, honestly, tenderly.</p><p></p><p>As for my part in all this. Praying for your daughter, thinking about and understanding her situation in a different light, has changed my feelings ~ has melted some pocket of rage and resistance ~ toward my own daughter.</p><p></p><p>It's as we discussed here once, Recovering. Nothing, nothing is wasted. I am honored, so grateful for the clarity, so grateful for my own growth.</p><p></p><p>There is a meaning to it, there is a gift in this.</p><p></p><p>The pain and the sadness are the cost of the healing. For once, Recovering, for just this little while, you are able to give to your daughter without holding back, without the fear of enabling. Because of where she is, there is literally nothing you can do for her now but love her, free and clear and easy and right.</p><p></p><p>I don't know why it has to hurt this way.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 621866, member: 17461"] It does, Recovering. But how healing for your daughter, to know you are there, loving her enough to hear her without turning away. It may be too soon for this, but even when it happened, I wondered at the timing. Your daughter is safe where she is, Recovering. Each of you have grown and changed so much that the dynamic between you is unrecognizable...and this happens, something so intimately connected to the heart of the original loss. Even the ex-roommate's cruelty is a kind of replay of the shock, of the unfixable horror, of your daughter's, and your family's, original loss. Miracles do happen, Recovering. They are not always wondrous or happy things. They are change events, times we look back on with wonder. I am sending you my warmth and strength and courage, Recovering. I think of you and of your daughter and granddaughter so many times each day and night. To me, it seems that this is the event you have prepared for, Recovering. There are the three generations. Here is the coldness, the callousness, the unchangeable nature, of the unexpected death. But you are different; stronger, happier, more certain of what love means and of where it can take us all. What you do naturally will be the right thing, Recovering. I don't know whether this will become the healing we hope for. But I do know that you will do your part, beautifully, gracefully, honestly, tenderly. As for my part in all this. Praying for your daughter, thinking about and understanding her situation in a different light, has changed my feelings ~ has melted some pocket of rage and resistance ~ toward my own daughter. It's as we discussed here once, Recovering. Nothing, nothing is wasted. I am honored, so grateful for the clarity, so grateful for my own growth. There is a meaning to it, there is a gift in this. The pain and the sadness are the cost of the healing. For once, Recovering, for just this little while, you are able to give to your daughter without holding back, without the fear of enabling. Because of where she is, there is literally nothing you can do for her now but love her, free and clear and easy and right. I don't know why it has to hurt this way. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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