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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 622081" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>This is just right for now, Recovering. I have been edging into the what-is-going-to-happen with my own daughter. Once I see it, I can practice with the breath in and the space on the breath out to put a separation between myself and my fear. (Or between myself and whatever emotion I've chosen to cover fear, in my denial.) I am getting better at that. Once we see what we do, then we know how to unravel the feeling state, the next time.</p><p></p><p>It is a strange thing to watch myself cover and uncover, to watch myself create a storyline. It is easy to let it go, but hard to see it.</p><p></p><p>Pema Chodron has been good for me, too.</p><p></p><p>The strangest thing is that I had seen Pema Chodron on Oprah's Soul Sunday once, and didn't like her. I mean like actively did not like her. You found her of such value though, that I began reading her work.</p><p></p><p>So helpful to me, Recovering. </p><p></p><p>Ha! Thanks for mentioning the whatever that was with my mother. I have been catching myself making storylines all around that. I am just going to leave it alone. Again, the process of creating the storyline was automatic. Catching myself at it, realizing what I was doing, it was easy enough to stop.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p>You know I pray for you, and for your daughter, each time I think of you ~ or even of my own daughter ~ many times throughout the day.</p><p></p><p>I think our daughters do not think about jail the way that we do, Recovering. Lately, as I've been letting go of my uber-responsible mother role (which turns out to have been self serving storyline, in that no one could accuse me of being uncaring ~ hoo boy, this uncovering never stops). Anyway, a benefit of that, when I can remember to do it, is that I have been able to laugh with my daughter and mean it. Not laughter at the craziness of what she does, but real laughter, gentle and sweet and kind. I'm looking at it like I'm losing her, Recovering. That may not happen, but if it does, I wanted to have been real with her, not her mom, not her banker or judge.</p><p></p><p>It's been good for me.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 622081, member: 17461"] This is just right for now, Recovering. I have been edging into the what-is-going-to-happen with my own daughter. Once I see it, I can practice with the breath in and the space on the breath out to put a separation between myself and my fear. (Or between myself and whatever emotion I've chosen to cover fear, in my denial.) I am getting better at that. Once we see what we do, then we know how to unravel the feeling state, the next time. It is a strange thing to watch myself cover and uncover, to watch myself create a storyline. It is easy to let it go, but hard to see it. Pema Chodron has been good for me, too. The strangest thing is that I had seen Pema Chodron on Oprah's Soul Sunday once, and didn't like her. I mean like actively did not like her. You found her of such value though, that I began reading her work. So helpful to me, Recovering. Ha! Thanks for mentioning the whatever that was with my mother. I have been catching myself making storylines all around that. I am just going to leave it alone. Again, the process of creating the storyline was automatic. Catching myself at it, realizing what I was doing, it was easy enough to stop. :O) Cedar You know I pray for you, and for your daughter, each time I think of you ~ or even of my own daughter ~ many times throughout the day. I think our daughters do not think about jail the way that we do, Recovering. Lately, as I've been letting go of my uber-responsible mother role (which turns out to have been self serving storyline, in that no one could accuse me of being uncaring ~ hoo boy, this uncovering never stops). Anyway, a benefit of that, when I can remember to do it, is that I have been able to laugh with my daughter and mean it. Not laughter at the craziness of what she does, but real laughter, gentle and sweet and kind. I'm looking at it like I'm losing her, Recovering. That may not happen, but if it does, I wanted to have been real with her, not her mom, not her banker or judge. It's been good for me. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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