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Sad to say but I have to move easy child into the difficult child category...
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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 427389" data-attributes="member: 393"><p>3S, just an addendum to my post above. Adoption issues are just that ~ they need to be addressed. However, over the years I've learned to listen quietly yet not allow those issues to cripple the tweedles. Their life is what it is. I can't change what happened in their young lives more than I can change the weather.</p><p></p><p>Too much coddling over being adopted is a dangerous thing. It sets you up as the "enemy" for lack of a better word. The reality I teach the tweedles is that I'm not the mother who hurt or allowed them to be hurt. I'm the mom who's given kt & wm a stable loving home. </p><p></p><p>There are too many successful people out there who are adopted. I point out to the tweedles those people. </p><p></p><p>If kt & wm choose to abandon the family that loves them it is their choice.</p><p></p><p>wm has decided long ago not to bother trying; he feels abandoned yet has never tried to attach or, in the same right has abandoned, husband & myself. Nothing will ever be right for wm. It's wm's belief, his way of "surviving" his past.</p><p></p><p>So.... life moves forward for your easy child/difficult child. She needs to find a way to maneuver thru her adolescent years, her world & the world in general. Her choices are risky & that must be addressed .... I just don't see it as an adoption issue. I wonder if bio parents had a hx of something or another that is rearing it's ugly head.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 427389, member: 393"] 3S, just an addendum to my post above. Adoption issues are just that ~ they need to be addressed. However, over the years I've learned to listen quietly yet not allow those issues to cripple the tweedles. Their life is what it is. I can't change what happened in their young lives more than I can change the weather. Too much coddling over being adopted is a dangerous thing. It sets you up as the "enemy" for lack of a better word. The reality I teach the tweedles is that I'm not the mother who hurt or allowed them to be hurt. I'm the mom who's given kt & wm a stable loving home. There are too many successful people out there who are adopted. I point out to the tweedles those people. If kt & wm choose to abandon the family that loves them it is their choice. wm has decided long ago not to bother trying; he feels abandoned yet has never tried to attach or, in the same right has abandoned, husband & myself. Nothing will ever be right for wm. It's wm's belief, his way of "surviving" his past. So.... life moves forward for your easy child/difficult child. She needs to find a way to maneuver thru her adolescent years, her world & the world in general. Her choices are risky & that must be addressed .... I just don't see it as an adoption issue. I wonder if bio parents had a hx of something or another that is rearing it's ugly head. [/QUOTE]
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