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safe to say i think she has an eating disorder
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 378432" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Here's hoping this psychiatrist can help, fast. I agree, she is on the brink, but this is not yet primarily eating disorder. It's a whole lot of other stuff which is pushing her in that direction (to add to your problems).</p><p></p><p>There are a lot of underlying problems here. The talk therapy may help, especially if they can help her reconnect the physical and emotional. That is, I suspect, a huge part of the problem at the moment. Her stress - she herself is part of the reason which means she is in a positive feedback loop (like someone at a public speaking venue who has the microphone too close to the speaker - you get a squeal from the speakers when the sound from the microphone, no matter how faint, gets amplified and picked up by the microphone which feeds to the speakers which gets picked up by the microphone which feeds to the speakers which... and so on). Positive feedback loops can be very bad.</p><p></p><p>One of my oldest friends had problem with her first husband, anxiety and a positive feedback loop. Unknown to any of them, he had bipolar. He was working extra hard and this was causing stress and exhaustion. He was a perfectionist and stayed longer at work to get the job done, and done right. This meant he was more tired, more likely to make mistakes, more anxious and more perfectionist. His paranoia began to rise - someone was sabotaging him, he felt. This pushed hi into a manic phase where he hardly slept at all. All this aggravated his stress until one morning he was simply catatonic and she called the ambulance.</p><p>He was OK eventually on medications, but the next time it happened he had a total reality break. Convinced she was the cause of all his problems, he tried to kill her. Not on impulse, but planned murder with a bomb. She had to go into hiding with the kids. She was advised that he could never be a normal husband and father, she should cut him out of their lives. She chose not to, but eventually she did divorce him. When she was told to never let him near the kids again, she again chose to ignore the advice and set up supervised visitation. I think that is what saved him - he has been stable on medications now for 20 years. Married again, has been a marvellous father to his kids with his new wife and attended his first wife's remarriage. They are all good friends now, he is doing fine.</p><p></p><p>So despite how bad this can get, it can work out.</p><p></p><p>Hold onto hope and keep doing what you are doing. Current aim - minimise stress and as far as possible, work with what you are restricted to. it's futile to shout at her to go to bed, all it will do is ramp up her anxiety. Invest in ear plugs. Hang in there until the appointment.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 378432, member: 1991"] Here's hoping this psychiatrist can help, fast. I agree, she is on the brink, but this is not yet primarily eating disorder. It's a whole lot of other stuff which is pushing her in that direction (to add to your problems). There are a lot of underlying problems here. The talk therapy may help, especially if they can help her reconnect the physical and emotional. That is, I suspect, a huge part of the problem at the moment. Her stress - she herself is part of the reason which means she is in a positive feedback loop (like someone at a public speaking venue who has the microphone too close to the speaker - you get a squeal from the speakers when the sound from the microphone, no matter how faint, gets amplified and picked up by the microphone which feeds to the speakers which gets picked up by the microphone which feeds to the speakers which... and so on). Positive feedback loops can be very bad. One of my oldest friends had problem with her first husband, anxiety and a positive feedback loop. Unknown to any of them, he had bipolar. He was working extra hard and this was causing stress and exhaustion. He was a perfectionist and stayed longer at work to get the job done, and done right. This meant he was more tired, more likely to make mistakes, more anxious and more perfectionist. His paranoia began to rise - someone was sabotaging him, he felt. This pushed hi into a manic phase where he hardly slept at all. All this aggravated his stress until one morning he was simply catatonic and she called the ambulance. He was OK eventually on medications, but the next time it happened he had a total reality break. Convinced she was the cause of all his problems, he tried to kill her. Not on impulse, but planned murder with a bomb. She had to go into hiding with the kids. She was advised that he could never be a normal husband and father, she should cut him out of their lives. She chose not to, but eventually she did divorce him. When she was told to never let him near the kids again, she again chose to ignore the advice and set up supervised visitation. I think that is what saved him - he has been stable on medications now for 20 years. Married again, has been a marvellous father to his kids with his new wife and attended his first wife's remarriage. They are all good friends now, he is doing fine. So despite how bad this can get, it can work out. Hold onto hope and keep doing what you are doing. Current aim - minimise stress and as far as possible, work with what you are restricted to. it's futile to shout at her to go to bed, all it will do is ramp up her anxiety. Invest in ear plugs. Hang in there until the appointment. Marg [/QUOTE]
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