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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 600352" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>It can well be, that your difficult child likes to play with your easy child, because it is easier for him. He may have difficulties in negotiating, compromising and other politics in peer level relationships. Relationships with younger kid are easier and less stressful for him. That is rather typical for socially challenged kid. But social skills are called skills for a reason, so it would be important for him to have more peer level interactions. Preferably in situations and environments that are easier and enjoyable for him.</p><p></p><p>Does he really love mini-golfing? If so, it is a good way to meet with friends because it is somewhat organized. But if it is more a thing like 'you too have to do something active and out of house', maybe adding peer level social interaction is not the best plan? Maybe asking friends to your house to game (easy environment and activity to difficult child) and taking difficult child and easy child to mini golf (more enjoable to easy child, organized activity letting difficult child boss him around less and difficult child having to deal with only one uncomfortable factor at the time.)</p><p></p><p>Do you think your difficult child may think his dad likes more to spend time with easy child and has more interest to easy child's favourite activities than his? If so, it may cause some intense jealousy issues. Would your husband be willing to consider scheduling regular, as frequent and as long time to kid's favourite activities alone with both of his sons? How about you?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 600352, member: 14557"] It can well be, that your difficult child likes to play with your easy child, because it is easier for him. He may have difficulties in negotiating, compromising and other politics in peer level relationships. Relationships with younger kid are easier and less stressful for him. That is rather typical for socially challenged kid. But social skills are called skills for a reason, so it would be important for him to have more peer level interactions. Preferably in situations and environments that are easier and enjoyable for him. Does he really love mini-golfing? If so, it is a good way to meet with friends because it is somewhat organized. But if it is more a thing like 'you too have to do something active and out of house', maybe adding peer level social interaction is not the best plan? Maybe asking friends to your house to game (easy environment and activity to difficult child) and taking difficult child and easy child to mini golf (more enjoable to easy child, organized activity letting difficult child boss him around less and difficult child having to deal with only one uncomfortable factor at the time.) Do you think your difficult child may think his dad likes more to spend time with easy child and has more interest to easy child's favourite activities than his? If so, it may cause some intense jealousy issues. Would your husband be willing to consider scheduling regular, as frequent and as long time to kid's favourite activities alone with both of his sons? How about you? [/QUOTE]
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