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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 674625" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Welcome Sad,</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry for what you are going through. I am glad you found us here, it's a good place to come for much needed support.</p><p></p><p>You have done all you can and then some. Our difficult adult children are really good at placing blame on us instead of taking responsibility for their own poor choices. They will try to "guilt" us into helping them only helping isn't helping, it's enabling.</p><p></p><p>Have you ever attended an Al-Anon meeting? It's a great program for family members of a and addict/alcoholic. One of the biggest misconceptions about someone "being clean" is that they are now okay. Have you ever heard the term <em>Dry Drunk</em>? An addict/alcoholic can be free from drugs or booze but if they have not dealt with their own life issues they will continue to behave in an irresponsible manner.</p><p></p><p>There is nothing more that you can do. You did not create the chaos of your son's life, he did. It's his to own not yours.</p><p></p><p>I understand the heartache you feel, we all do here. You are not alone.</p><p></p><p>Stay steady the course as you are doing really well. Keep your boundaries firm.</p><p></p><p>Please let us know how things are going.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) to you...............</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 674625, member: 18516"] Welcome Sad, I am so sorry for what you are going through. I am glad you found us here, it's a good place to come for much needed support. You have done all you can and then some. Our difficult adult children are really good at placing blame on us instead of taking responsibility for their own poor choices. They will try to "guilt" us into helping them only helping isn't helping, it's enabling. Have you ever attended an Al-Anon meeting? It's a great program for family members of a and addict/alcoholic. One of the biggest misconceptions about someone "being clean" is that they are now okay. Have you ever heard the term [I]Dry Drunk[/I]? An addict/alcoholic can be free from drugs or booze but if they have not dealt with their own life issues they will continue to behave in an irresponsible manner. There is nothing more that you can do. You did not create the chaos of your son's life, he did. It's his to own not yours. I understand the heartache you feel, we all do here. You are not alone. Stay steady the course as you are doing really well. Keep your boundaries firm. Please let us know how things are going. ((HUGS)) to you............... [/QUOTE]
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